Loading...
Simply Chic Simply Chic Blog Home

Revealed: The hardest marriage vow to keep

Couples share the toughest part of saying "I do."

By Kristin Wong Jan 2, 2013 4:51PM

Who doesn't get goose bumps when couples exchange wedding vows? It's impossible not to be moved when two people promise their lives together, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.

Photo: Lane Oatey/Getty ImagesBut it's all too easy to forget the significance of those vows in the middle of an ugly marital spat. And according to a recent survey, some vows are harder to keep than others.

More on MSN Living: Strangest dating trends of 2012

CBS News polled a random sample of 1,100 adults across the country and asked their thoughts on marriage, love, sex and relationships. One of those questions was: "Which one of these marriage vows is the hardest to keep?" The top answer varied between men and women.

Thirty-two percent of women found "for better or for worse" to be the toughest vow, while the highest percentage of men (27 percent), found it most difficult "to be faithful."

More on MSN Living: 8 most common reasons for divorce

Conversely, 25 percent of women also found "to be faithful" a tough vow to keep, while 23 percent of men had trouble with "for better or for worse."

Sixteen percent of women said "in sickness and in health" was the hardest vow, compared with a close 17 percent for men. Eighteen percent of men and 12 percent of women said "for richer, for poorer" was the biggest struggle.

But the survey didn't stop at marriage vows. They also asked couples which aspect of living with their partner they found most annoying. Thirty-six percent of respondents said "TV choices" drove them crazy, while 16 percent said household chores caused many annoyances.

Bing: Find out who got engaged over the holidays.

Sharing a bathroom came in third, followed by sharing a bed.

And the old stereotype about annoying in-laws may be officially outdated. Seventy-one percent of those polled said they get along well with their significant other's family.

Love at first sight? Fifty-eight percent of married people believe in it, as do 66 percent of unmarried couples in a relationship. Singles are split on the phenomenon—only 48 percent buy it.

What do you think—do these findings ring true? What do you think is the hardest marriage vow to keep?

Subscribe to The Heart Beat

Photo: Lane Oatey/Getty Images

More from The Heart Beat:
Is online dating causing divorce rates to rise?
Poll: Women don't marry the best sex of their lives
7 lost wedding ring stories with happy endings

94Comments
Jan 3, 2013 4:29AM
avatar
Marriage isn't easy, it's alot of work. We have been married almost 39 years and we still don't have it all figured out. We work at it. I can't imagine my life without my 'other half', even on the days I'd like to kill him! That cuts both ways though and as long as you realize and accept that you can work it out.
Jan 3, 2013 4:28AM
avatar
i think for better or for worse brings the most stress...i have no issue with faithful, tough to be poor but thats not eithers fault in this house...tv? i read, he watches tho we do play jeopardy together...i think it is the heart of the commitment, not all the daily situations and when you wanna do something against your vows, you will...
Jan 3, 2013 4:24AM
avatar
May the truth be told was it love at first sight or was it lust at first sight
Jan 3, 2013 4:24AM
avatar
When I was young I married the girl in my dreams.  She wasn't just the girl of my dreams, I knew her and she knew me, even before we met.  We are one.  As a soldier in the US Army I once drove a group of "Promise Keepers" to a convention in Washington DC.  These are married Christian men who value the keeping of these vows, and I am one of them.  It is difficult however when those vows cause only suffering.  To love and to cherish, to have and to hold, for better or for worse, in sickness or in health, as long as you both shall live, till death do us part.  I don't get to have and to hold my beloved wife but for a short time when I am not out defending our country.   In fact, in the sixteen years since we married I have only known two when we were together and those two years spread out over the sixteen.  Staying faithful is increasingly difficult when there is so much distance between us.  When you spend more time apart than together it becomes difficult to even remember who you married, so that one too presents a problem.  When being married is the cause of you  becoming homeless, just because of who you married, it is hard not to become bitter.  When what you are told you must do just to see her again is what causes your sickness the pain of your heart breaking kills you even quicker.  No, for me the hardest vow to keep is till death do us part, because I died but didn't stay dead.  I promised to love her forever, to never forget her, to live for her and to die for her, now I don't even know where she is.  Yet I still keep those vows, for her.  Death cannot keep us apart, we are one.
Jan 3, 2013 3:49AM
avatar

My wife and I have been married for 23 years, and for the last 17 I have been in declining health, including PTSD. And while many people I know do not understand why she has remained as my wife, I believe they do not understand what a "marriage" really is. It seems to bother me more that she is my care-giver than it bothers her, and I also know that I would not be alive now if it were not for the love we have for each other.

Before we were married, we had dated for 9 months (NOT living together), and spent a lot of time discussing what we believed about all aspects of marriage, and how we wanted to do most things, including raising children.

===

Before I replied, I asked her if she found any one of the promises in the traditional vows harder to keep than the other. And her response was the same as mine, that there were none that were really difficult.

===

We were both married to alcoholics who were also abusive, and were abused by our mothers. My father suffered from sone form of dementia, and her father died when she was only 2. All these things "should" make us unlikely to stay in a marriage, but it appears that it only makes us both determined to stay together.

 

Jan 3, 2013 3:46AM
avatar
Dont get married unless your going to stay married. Dont have children unless your going to stay married. Kids are not pets. 
Jan 3, 2013 3:43AM
avatar

Nothing better than a good marriage but nothing worse than a bad marriage.

 

Myself, I've only experienced one of the two.

Jan 3, 2013 3:43AM
avatar
Toughest Thing? 
Putting up with an idiot.

Report
Please help us to maintain a healthy and vibrant community by reporting any illegal or inappropriate behavior. If you believe a message violates theCode of Conductplease use this form to notify the moderators. They will investigate your report and take appropriate action. If necessary, they report all illegal activity to the proper authorities.
Categories
100 character limit
Are you sure you want to delete this comment?

beauty tips and style advice

  • Olivia Palermo in separates

    10 unexpected celebrity wedding styles

    Stunning wedding styles that create a statement.

  • Emma Stone

    The best celebrity ombré hairstyles

    Hue-changing dos we absolutely love.

  • Clothing sizes

    Bad news: Your favorite skinny jeans may not be so ‘skinny’ after all

    In case you weren’t already overwhelmed enough by the daunting task of jeans shopping (or really, clothes shopping in general), our friends over at Racked published a handy little infographic today comparing the sizing of a variety of different retailers that you’ve likely frequented at least a handful of times in your lifetime.

  • Getty Images

    The one color you’ll never see at Abercrombie and Fitch…until now

    I attended the Abercrombie and Fitch holiday-season press preview yesterday, and in between checking out the cute gear that will hit stores this November, I picked up a little nugget of information I just have to share.

  • Celebrity wearing flannel (Photo: Courtesy of InStyle)

    3 star-inspired ways to wear flannel in the summer

    How to wear this cool-weather staple in the summer.

  • Miranda Kerr (Photo: Courtesy of InStyle)

    Miranda Kerr gives Birkenstocks a very fashionable spin

    See how Miranda Kerr made a pair of Birkenstocks chic.

  • Lucky

    New drugstore nail polishes you haven’t tried yet—all under $10!

    We love how a new nail polish has the ability to instantly change your look and your mood with a simple swipe. While happy lime greens and aquas are ruling the five million #nailpolish Instagrams this summer, there are a variety of great colors to choose from—whether you want an office-appropriate neutral or a fun going-out shade that’ll give your LBD a punch of color.

  • Z Zegna fall\winter 2014\Umberto Fratini\Indigital Images; MP Massimo Piombo spring\summer 2015; Antonio Marras spring\summer 2015\Yannis Vlamos\Indigital Images.

    11 style rules to break right now

    You already know wearing white after Labor Day is cool. But menswear is reinventing itself rapidly, leaving some long-held mandates by the wayside, not to mention a bunch of men with a lot of questions. Sure, some style laws are truly inviolable. Showing a quarter-inch of cuff will always be crucial, but with designers and dandies flaunting so many former taboos it's hard to tell what's in play these days. So we thought we'd take this opportunity to let you know which rules no longer apply.

  • Courtesy of the Company

    How to dress for the weekend

    Put down the wrinkled button-down, step away from the Crocs, and open your closet. We need to talk about the new rules of casual.

  • a1

    Brush up: How to choose the best hairbrush

    Buying a brush is like getting a new smartphone: once you learn how to use it, it’s indispensable.

  • a1

    Catch the wave: How to get surfer-girl hair

    Surfers are the epitome of cool, laid-back American style. And if we can’t be them, at least we can copy their hair.

  • a1

    Cool wedding beauty ideas

    It’s time for bridal beauty to loosen up. Hair doesn’t have to be tightly wound, makeup perfectly contoured, and nails French manicured (on this last point, really, please don’t). You can, in fact, look gorgeously and timelessly cool at your wedding. Here’s how.

follow us
follow us follow us on facebook follow us on pinterest follow us on twitter
Most Popular
  • Shared
  • Commented
  • Viewed
buzzing now on msn living
Loading...
about our blog contributors
Loading...
style videos
editor's picks
Loading...