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Shacking Up No Longer a Major Divorce Predictor

Yet another reason to live in sin.

By Kristin Wong Mar 22, 2012 4:49PM

Photo: Jordan Siemens/The Image Bank/Getty ImagesA new government study finds that men and women who live together before marriage no longer run a higher risk of divorcing like they did in years past.

Oh, but I should mention….being engaged helps.

"[Living together before marriage] is not playing as big a role in predicting divorce as it used to," said Casey Copen, the lead author of the study.

But the study, which surveyed 22,000 men and women, found that the divorce rate is higher if the shacking up couple isn’t engaged. So if you’re living together and marriage isn’t in the works, but you do eventually end up getting married, that marriage is more likely to end. How much more likely? About 7 percent.

If a couple is living together without an engagement, the chance of the marriage lasting more than 15 years is 53 percent. For an engaged couple living together, that number is 60 percent.

To explain the trend, Copen said the non-engaged couples might not take commitment seriously or have family histories that made them pessimistic about marriage.

So commitment seems to be the key word here.
Hillary Mickell first moved in with her husband when they were both students at Boston University. They now live in San Francisco.

"I sort of knew he would be part of my life long-term,” Hilary says of moving in with her husband before they were married. “I wasn't thinking, `He's moving in with me, is he ever going to marry me?'"

So it looks like living in sin won’t hurt your marriage…as long as you do plan on getting married.

Other interesting statistics from the study:

* Men and women with Bachelor’s degrees are more likely to stay married for at least 20 years. However, they also delay marriage.

* Asian women are more likely than other races to have a first marriage lasting longer than 20 years.

138Comments
Mar 25, 2012 12:30AM
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Yep, just what I thought, 3 hours later plenty of people who are brave enough to click buttons, not one person even attempting to defend calling a marriage like mine "sinful".


Mar 24, 2012 9:39PM
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You know, I don't vote comments down because I believe everyone is entitled to their opinions, but if you're going to vote mine down, could you at least address my question.  Obviously you have an opinion about my statement, otherwise you wouldn't have voted, so what is it?  Or are you only interested in throwing stones at someone who's choices you don't agree with?
Mar 24, 2012 9:16PM
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Laureen J. Holt , Its to bad the rest of the world doesn't share your views. Nice post thank you...Hard to find people with morals in this time and place
Mar 24, 2012 9:09PM
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The headline on the MSN page is "Another reason to live in sin."

Seriously? If there is strong, interesting, newsworthy data in the article, share it. But mocking the idea of purity or morality doesn't need to be part of it.

The quality of journalism is just so poor these days.




Mar 24, 2012 8:12PM
Mar 24, 2012 7:52PM
Mar 24, 2012 7:47PM
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I know that I would not live with a man before marriage--never have, never will. It's just WRONG. If he wants all the benefits of living & the sharing of life with me, then we can make the trip to the altar first. I would never live with a man I could not see myself married to. I would not even consent to living with a man I'm engaged to--I just see no point whatever in it. I'm Catholic, & that does have something to do with it. I doubt I could get interested in shacking up even if I were not a Christian--I just believe it is wrong.
Mar 24, 2012 7:45PM
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Someone       Your statement about Confucius is 'Confuc'-ing!

 

Confucius is thought to have lived about 500BC.  How is that 2,000 years

before Christ?  It is thought that he may have said something like "Do not do to others what you do not want done to yourself".  This is in the form of the Golden Rule, but differs from the proactive version Jesus gave, "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." Matt. 7:12

 

Its sad with folks like poor Empathy400 who really does not understand about the Old Covenant law which was 'nailed to the cross', and fulfilled by Jesus, as he introduced

the New Covenant by purchasing it with his own blood.

 

Even more sad, there really are very few 'followers of Christ' (that's what Christian means), thus all of the accusations of hypocrisy. 

 

 

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