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Does porn make you cheat?

Researchers say don’t let your habit get out of hand.

By Mens Health Magazine Mar 22, 2013 4:48PM

Watching porn may increase your urge to fool around, according to a new study in "Social, Psychological and Personality Science."

Researchers found that the more a guy looked at smut, the more likely he was to stray from his partner. That fits in line with previous research that shows men who cheat are more than three times as likely to watch porn regularly.

Photo: Does porn make you more likely to cheat? / Nicolas Hansen/Getty ImagesWhat’s the kink link? Porn offers men access to no-strings-attached sex, often with multiple highly attractive partners, said study co-author A. Marlea Gwinn, of the University of Central Florida. And even though you recognize it’s all make-believe, those erotic images reinforce the idea that there are many willing and attractive alternatives to your current squeeze, Gwinn said.

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Dirty images also focus your mind on reproduction, and your instinct to reproduce values multiple sex partners over a loving, steady relationship, Gwinn adds.

Now, the science on porn is controversial and ever-evolving. (Check out our 2012 report, “Is Porn Harmful?” for the breakdown.)

But if you feel as though you’re spending more time on PornHub than usual, it’s time to cut back, said Rob Weiss, a certified sex addiction therapist and the director of sex and intimacy disorder services for Elements Behavioral Health.

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First, set a goal. Try to go two weeks without porn, Weiss recommends. Before you start, write down three reasons why you want to scale back, and tape these where you’ll see them often — like the back of your phone or by your computer.

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After the two weeks are up, set specific targets for your habit, whether that’s once a week or once a month, Weiss says. If you find yourself struggling to stay with it, he recommends computer tracking software from companies like Spytech ($70, spytech-web.com), which can block certain sites or even notify one of your buddies if you break down.

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Photo: Does porn make you more likely to cheat? / Nicolas Hansen/Getty Images

 

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Mar 24, 2013 1:17AM
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Just makes me want to touch myself
Mar 24, 2013 1:14AM
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Yep, giving up real women (wives) for fantasy women.  Makes good sense to me.  Hmmm... Wonder if it was hillbilly that looked at his hand and went" yep that looks like a vagina to me." Oh what the heck, women are so turned on by the prospect that their husbands want to have sex after fantasizing about another woman....  Then he wonders why she does not want to have sex.  Gives most women fuzzies all over.  Guys imprinting on multiple sexual partners, lust and physical sex versus imprinting on the girl, love making and monogamy.   It is, after all, all about his 2 minutes of gratification versus the work it takes to spend 20 minutes to ring her bell too.  It seems we have a math problem here.   How many guys in here wake up in the morning, roll over and shake their wives and go "Hey, you awake?"   Now that is what I call romance!  Yeah, it is all about the boy and his need.  Forget the girl, random acts of kindness and the fact that she communicates through the heart.  Nevermind that the sex drive in men was met to remind him to "be nice to the girl so that she will give you a green light to the happy place."  Who needs foreplay when you have porn, but it has gotta be all her fault--right? Awesome formula all you Porn Gents on how NOT to have the Best Possible Sex.  
Mar 24, 2013 1:01AM
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From purely my own perspective I disagree with these findings.  Of course there are those who say that the mere act of watching pornography is a form of infidelity in and of itself. I was married and totally faithful for 39 years and 4 months when I lost my wife to complications of Parkinson's Disease.  The last 6 years were difficult where sex was concerned.  When someone is a total care giver for another person it is difficult to relate to them on a sexual level, or at least it was for me.  So I resorted to porn and autoeroticism for most of my sexual needs.  I resisted the urge to actually engage in a sexual liaison with another woman.

 

For me it was purely a matter of self discipline and honoring my wedding vows.  I not only loved my wife but honored her and respected her enough to keep my promises to her regardless of what temptations crossed my path.  Frankly blaming porn for a man's cheating is just using porn as a scapegoat because if it weren't for porn something else would have ultimately triggered their infidelity.  How do I know this?  Simple.  Men have been cheating on their wives for millennia and the recent advent of porn has just made it easier to see the greener grass on the other side of the fence.  I have no doubt they would have cheated anyway.  LOL 

Mar 24, 2013 12:56AM
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Why do I get the feeling that all these comments were typed with one hand???
Mar 24, 2013 12:49AM
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I think that is really ****. But, it really depends on an individual's personality. As for me, I am damn proud to say that I love to watch porn sometimes. But, being all this, you will have to be honest with your partner and talk to him/her about it. My lady already knows that I love to watch porn. If you can't live without porn, you will have to make sure that you have a partner who is very open minded and down to earth and accept who you are without any silly judgment. Of course, any of these people who would cheat is because of how stinky their relationships were. That's their problem, not the porn's problem. Porn is for educating people who have no skills in sex or help people become more open minded and willing to try many new things besides same old **** every day. 
Just saying. 
Mar 24, 2013 12:47AM
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I do not agree with your article. It is just an opinion that I believe is wrong.
Mar 24, 2013 12:23AM
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What about us women who like to watch porn? Does this kind of study apply to us?
Mar 24, 2013 12:15AM
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What if the man wont give it up and the woman looks elsewhere? She is instantly labeled a whore.
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