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Women call the shots, study finds

In most couples, women are the decision-makers.

By Kristin Wong Dec 5, 2012 4:55PM

James Brown told us that it's a man's world, but this study might beg to differ. According to the Pew Research Center, it's women who have the final say on many household decisions.

Photo: Stefanie Sudek-Mensch/Getty ImagesThe organization interviewed over 1,000 adults who were married or living with a partner and asked them who was in charge of making the decisions in four areas of domestic life. For a whopping 43 percent of couples, women are calling the shots. Men make the decisions in only 26 percent of relationships, the study found, while 31 percent of couples say they divide the decisions equally.

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So what are the four areas in which women are wearing the pants?

Weekend plans

For 46 percent of couples, weekend plans are made together. But for those couples in which one partner primarily has control, it's the woman calling the shots. Twenty-eight percent of couples said that the woman decides what to do on weekends, while only 16 percent of couples put the man in charge of those activities.

Major household purchases

Again, nearly half of couples have equal control over the decisions in this area. But in those couples with one person in control, that person is the woman. In 30 percent of couples surveyed, the woman decides on big purchases for the home. That number was 19 percent for men.

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Managing the finances

The study found that women are more likely than men to manage the household finances (38 percent vs. 30 percent). Interestingly, couples are more likely to share decision making about weekend plans than the household budget. Only 28 percent of couples manage the finances together.

Television viewing

And finally, who controls the remote? This is the one area that was the most evenly split, with women deciding what to watch in 27 percent of relationships and men controlling the remote in 26 percent.

Overall, more women (15 percent) than men (9 percent) take the lead in making decisions in three or more of these areas.

What do you think—who calls the shots in your relationship?

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Photo: Stefanie Sudek-Mensch/Getty Images

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Dec 5, 2012 9:48PM
Dec 5, 2012 9:48PM
As the bumper sticker says " If they didn't have p****ies, there would be a bounty on them."
Dec 5, 2012 9:46PM
Real men don't gt married, why buy the whole cow when you can get the milk free. Men who get married are the weak just look around.
Dec 5, 2012 9:45PM
Whats wrong with that picture at the top of the page? Its the same thing wrong with the idea that women can rule. They make bad decisions based on emotion. When God Commanded Eve to be a helpmate to Adam He said "And He (Adam) shall have rule over thee".  We men are commanded to lead for a reason. Our Children are named after us for a reason.  
Dec 5, 2012 9:43PM
Also responsible for credit card dept but not responsible for paying it off.
it's the absolute best way to avoid contraversy, save the big guns for the issues that you want to control
Dec 5, 2012 9:41PM
...and in other news: Fire burns, water is wet, and Anderson Cooper is gay.
Dec 5, 2012 9:40PM
Lol...a female telling us about the study she did with other females. Weak.
Well when your guys and girls are all melding into one species with skinny jeans, makeup and nails what do you expect. Otherwise the guys look like fagzillas and the girls all look like they work in muffler shops. Have a woman tell a real man what to do and see how far she gets his foot up her azz.

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