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Women call the shots, study finds

In most couples, women are the decision-makers.

By Kristin Wong Dec 5, 2012 4:55PM

James Brown told us that it's a man's world, but this study might beg to differ. According to the Pew Research Center, it's women who have the final say on many household decisions.

Photo: Stefanie Sudek-Mensch/Getty ImagesThe organization interviewed over 1,000 adults who were married or living with a partner and asked them who was in charge of making the decisions in four areas of domestic life. For a whopping 43 percent of couples, women are calling the shots. Men make the decisions in only 26 percent of relationships, the study found, while 31 percent of couples say they divide the decisions equally.

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So what are the four areas in which women are wearing the pants?

Weekend plans

For 46 percent of couples, weekend plans are made together. But for those couples in which one partner primarily has control, it's the woman calling the shots. Twenty-eight percent of couples said that the woman decides what to do on weekends, while only 16 percent of couples put the man in charge of those activities.

Major household purchases

Again, nearly half of couples have equal control over the decisions in this area. But in those couples with one person in control, that person is the woman. In 30 percent of couples surveyed, the woman decides on big purchases for the home. That number was 19 percent for men.

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Managing the finances

The study found that women are more likely than men to manage the household finances (38 percent vs. 30 percent). Interestingly, couples are more likely to share decision making about weekend plans than the household budget. Only 28 percent of couples manage the finances together.

Television viewing

And finally, who controls the remote? This is the one area that was the most evenly split, with women deciding what to watch in 27 percent of relationships and men controlling the remote in 26 percent.

Overall, more women (15 percent) than men (9 percent) take the lead in making decisions in three or more of these areas.

What do you think—who calls the shots in your relationship?

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Photo: Stefanie Sudek-Mensch/Getty Images

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Dec 5, 2012 6:56PM
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There you have it people,and just look at the state of the world today.
Dec 5, 2012 6:54PM
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yup the female is in charge until the 100th time saying no to sex the man says ef off and gets a girlfriend. and here its ladies we are not your slaves. pet the dog or the dog leaves. its not cheating you just lost your turn. marriage is the worst damn thing invented ever.
Dec 5, 2012 6:49PM
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BTW...how many of you men who wives pay the bills are close to being bankrupted?

Women and finances...don't believe they go together :( Most of the women in my life know nothing about managing money,at all. Women don't know how to pay attention let alone paying bills.

Dec 5, 2012 6:46PM
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I see it this way: husband is the head, but  wife is the neck that turns that head any way she wants.

Dec 5, 2012 6:46PM
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I must have missed the boat.My wife is in agony if she has to make a decision!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dec 5, 2012 6:46PM
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We discuss most things together; but when it comes down to the final decision, it is up to me. My wife feels that its the mans duty as the husband and father to run the family daily life.

On many occasions, out of respect for my wife, I will do what my wife wants; but thatt is only out of respect for her. When it comes down to the tough decisions, it is my decision, and my decision only.

 

It is not a womans place to make decisions that affect the health and welfare of the family. Her place is in keeping the family as a whole together. She has a much more important job.

Dec 5, 2012 6:46PM
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   You are better off making your own decisions, It is not worth the price you have to pay. I have achieved more in my life being single both in my personal and business.  Have met more of my goals, enjoyed my life more, and I am able to have items I would not be able to have if I was married (rebuilt 70's Muscle Cars.).  You know why a Muscle Car is better than a spouse.  1. You can make it perform for you whenever, however you want it too, 2. You can make it look anyway you want it to, 3. You can trade it in on a new one .  LOL Hope the ex sees that one.
Dec 5, 2012 6:45PM
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To be fair to my husband. When it comes to television he controls the remote but only because I don't care.  I am only watching tv because I like snuggling up to him.

Actually I almost always fall asleep!

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