Couples split over bad gifts, poll finds
What are these breakup-worthy presents?
Isn't it the thought that counts?
Well, thoughtless or not, a significant number of couples actually split over bad gift giving, according to a new poll.
The survey finds that one in six couples have had a full-blown fight over a bad gift, and what's more, one in 20 couples have actually broken up for the same reason.
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John Starr Gift Card and Voucher Week, an annual event in November, commissioned the study, which included more than 2,000 men and women. Starr says he found it's mostly men who get gifts wrong. He told MSN's The Heart Beat:
“It can be a little insulting for women when the person they know best in life hasn’t got a clue what to get them."
But hey, it's not easy on guys, either:
"Even the most thoughtful of presents can be received with caution by women, who seem to assume that with every gift comes a hint."
Bad gifting is nothing new, but the surprising statistic is that some couples actually split over poorly thought out presents. I suppose if a relationship is liable to breakup over a present, the bond wasn't that strong to begin with. Or, maybe the gift was just that bad.
Starr also found that a whopping 80 percent of women think their partner genuinely tries but still gets the gift wrong. Conversely, 21 percent of men say their significant other doesn't get it right, either.
So what are these bad gifts that couples are receiving? Men complained that women have a tendency to buy them clothes and shoes they hate. Women, on the other hand, don't particularly appreciate sex toys or anti-aging products.
As the holidays close in on us, it's easy to get caught up in the materialism of gifting. But lovers, remember -- the greatest gifts are free. As Princess Diana once said: "I don't want expensive gifts … I just want someone to be there for me, to make me feel safe and secure." With that kind of support and love, who cares if you get an occasional bad gift?
But then again, Lady Di probably never got this.
At any rate, here are the top 10 gifts men get wrong, according to the study:
- Kitchen utensils
- Cheap jewelry
- Shoes or slippers
- Vacuum cleaner
- Exercise clothes or DVD
And the top 10 gifts women get wrong:
- Cheap gadgets
- A man bag
- Soft toys
- A meal out
- A framed photo
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More Sex & Love on MSN Living:
Guys are easy to buy gifts for... just ask us what we want and we'll be excited to tell you! and bonus: it'll still be a surprise to open because we don't remember anything :^o
Women have trouble receiving gifts sometimes because guys don't "get" all their hints, then when we get it wrong, they psychologically discect the meaning behind the item being given. The meaning they decipher is the one that makes the worst assumptions about the giver and they're usually waaaaay off and probably just being too sensitive. Or who knows... maybe it's just simply a crappy gift sometimes.
humans are weird.
Merry Christmas everyone!
I don't think people break up because of bad gifts. They break up because their partner doesn't take the time to listen or actually care about what they think.
My late F-I-L called me upstairs during our Christmas celebration one year. He handed me a new broom and told me to "wrap it so it doesn't look like a broom" and then"sneak it downstairs and put it under the tree for (our poor hard working) Mom". Cringe, hell, I almost threw up! I substituted a $50 gift card and ditched the broom. She was delighted and he looked confused, then disappointed then annoyed (which didn't ruin my celebration, by any means). To this day I don't know if he was cruel or just stupid.
Thank God his son is NOTHING like him! (RIP you old fart.)
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