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Bride plans wedding 10 years before meeting her groom

Say what you will about the bride, but there's one thing you can't call her—a procrastinator.

By Kristin Wong Jan 31, 2013 5:37PM

When Shawn Owens proposed to his girlfriend Kate, she accepted. And then she whipped out a binder that included every detail of the couple's wedding, down to the menus. The binder was aptly labeled, "Life." Years before Kate even met Shawn, this wedding had been painstakingly planned.

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"I think some people probably thought I was nuts," Owens told ABC News.

Kate even went so far as to book a band back in 2003. She saw them playing at a bar and thought they would be perfect for her sometime-in-the-future ceremony.

"I booked my band nine years in advance. I said, ''I don't have a groom, but if you guys are still around, will you play my wedding?'"

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For nearly a decade, Kate had been perfecting her big day. She hired a wedding planner, picked out the dresses and even knew what hairstyles she wanted for her wedding party.

"I knew the style of wedding dress I wanted. I knew what style bridesmaids' dress I wanted. I knew the color scheme. I knew I wanted it to be outdoors."

When she met Shawn, she didn't him about these plans--understandable. So when he proposed, and Kate revealed her secret, Shawn says he was "a little surprised." But eventually, he learned to appreciate Kate's…er

initiative.
"The fact that she had so much planning done ahead of time, I realized how low-stress this process was going to be."

Is Kate's behavior odd, or is she just highly-organized? Is it okay to plan the wedding without the groom? The Heart Beat talked to Kristin Banta, who owns an event-planning firm in Los Angeles.

"These are two people coming together for a union. They should be united in their planning and be on the same page. It should not be all about the bride," Banta told us. "This is their first opportunity to present something reflective of them as a married couple. And I'm not sure why or how this idea of it being solely 'her day' has come about."

To be fair, Shawn did have some input when the couple married last June:

"He picked out the tux that he wore," Kate said. "He picked out the suit and everything that the guys wore. I just gave him a color scheme to work with."

Shawn revealed that he and Kate are now working on starting a family.  We bet the colleges are all picked out.

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Feb 1, 2013 11:18PM
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my son-in-law left everything up to my daughter. He would have appreciated it being done 9 years early! Everytime she asked him a question it got a "whatever you want" "whatever you think is best"  response. You go girl!! bet there are a lot more guys out there that wish their wife would have done the same thing!
Feb 1, 2013 11:16PM
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This what is wrong with todays society, too many men are spineless and give women escapegoats. Women whine about they can't find a real man then they find you and use you as a doormat all the while referring to you as a real man. Sorry to burst your bubbles ladies real men don't let you train them in any aspect and if they do they are probably stuck in the closet or bi sexual not strictly clitly. Most women only want equality when it benefits them look around the world today commercial with women beating on guys imagine if that was the other way around?
Feb 1, 2013 11:15PM
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Working on a family already? Sounds like someone is planning for child support(wonder who). Beware, been there done that, got lucky and didn't have kids. Seriously, think about it, my ex was a control freak too and wanted to start a family as soon as possible. Think about it dude.
Feb 1, 2013 11:11PM
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I bet she already has a divorce lawyer on retainer. Poor fool. He has no idea what he is in for. He had best check that note book and see if she has any other weddings planned. She scares heck out of me.
Feb 1, 2013 11:07PM
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If you actually read the article you would know that they were married last June.  Your opinions should be based on an accurate accounting of the details , not just the headline and the first paragraph.
Feb 1, 2013 11:01PM
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Nine years my a$$.  She is female, she started her wedding planning before she was 5.  Sorry for the mysogyny ladies, but we only propose to make you happy, the psyco is all on you when it comes to wedding planning.  Just tell us where to be, what to wear, what time to be there and let it be.  You really don't want our opinion on color of the napkins, do you?
Feb 1, 2013 11:00PM
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You are doomed!  You need to book a divorce attorney now (before the weeding), Shawn!  It helps to plan ahead J

 

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