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Bride plans wedding 10 years before meeting her groom

Say what you will about the bride, but there's one thing you can't call her—a procrastinator.

By Kristin Wong Jan 31, 2013 5:37PM

When Shawn Owens proposed to his girlfriend Kate, she accepted. And then she whipped out a binder that included every detail of the couple's wedding, down to the menus. The binder was aptly labeled, "Life." Years before Kate even met Shawn, this wedding had been painstakingly planned.

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"I think some people probably thought I was nuts," Owens told ABC News.

Kate even went so far as to book a band back in 2003. She saw them playing at a bar and thought they would be perfect for her sometime-in-the-future ceremony.

"I booked my band nine years in advance. I said, ''I don't have a groom, but if you guys are still around, will you play my wedding?'"

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For nearly a decade, Kate had been perfecting her big day. She hired a wedding planner, picked out the dresses and even knew what hairstyles she wanted for her wedding party.

"I knew the style of wedding dress I wanted. I knew what style bridesmaids' dress I wanted. I knew the color scheme. I knew I wanted it to be outdoors."

When she met Shawn, she didn't him about these plans--understandable. So when he proposed, and Kate revealed her secret, Shawn says he was "a little surprised." But eventually, he learned to appreciate Kate's…er

initiative.
"The fact that she had so much planning done ahead of time, I realized how low-stress this process was going to be."

Is Kate's behavior odd, or is she just highly-organized? Is it okay to plan the wedding without the groom? The Heart Beat talked to Kristin Banta, who owns an event-planning firm in Los Angeles.

"These are two people coming together for a union. They should be united in their planning and be on the same page. It should not be all about the bride," Banta told us. "This is their first opportunity to present something reflective of them as a married couple. And I'm not sure why or how this idea of it being solely 'her day' has come about."

To be fair, Shawn did have some input when the couple married last June:

"He picked out the tux that he wore," Kate said. "He picked out the suit and everything that the guys wore. I just gave him a color scheme to work with."

Shawn revealed that he and Kate are now working on starting a family.  We bet the colleges are all picked out.

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Feb 1, 2013 7:51PM
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The question is she hot and does she like to play under the sheets a lot??? If yes its all good for as long as it lasts.
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So judgmental, people!  The groom didn't seem to have a problem with the bride having her dream wedding all planned!  My husband chose his tux and those of his groomsmen, but he left all the details to me - he could have cared less!  If he wanted anything special, he knew he could have it.  I don't know why everyone posting is so negative!  Chill!
Feb 1, 2013 7:50PM
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Not to be negative, and Im truely sorry for saying this. Shawn run like hell. Run until your feet bleed, wrap them up, and run some more. That, or,  your going to have to check slim jim and the twins at the door when you carry her across the threshold. Not only odd, but downright creepy.  I know little girls all have "The Book." For a while. 99.9% of the time its just general things like pictures of dresses and what not. Assorted likes of things she found in bridal mags and what not. This is way beyond that.  Sorry for being so negative. 

Feb 1, 2013 7:50PM
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i bet the divorce is also planned, on the same book

Feb 1, 2013 7:49PM
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At 6:45 =dinner

At 9:45 = brush

At 10:00 = sex

At 10:22 = cuddle

Feb 1, 2013 7:49PM
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I knew somebody years ago that did this-planned her entire wedding and even planned for her children.  Bought a dress, baby clothes and furniture etc...  Everyone thought she was a little nuts.  As far as I know, she never married or had kids.
Feb 1, 2013 7:48PM
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  I think that's cool that she had a dream, and made it come true.  I think guys like when the girls plan the wedding anyway.  She did give him options, and if he really cared that much about his involvement, I'm sure he would've said so. 

  It's a lot to plan a wedding.  I think it's cool that she did that.  Less stress, I'm sure.  I'm happy for them.  I think the wife should become a wedding planner.  She's obviously good at it.  :)

 

Feb 1, 2013 7:47PM
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I really can't comprehend women making a big deal about weddings.  We ran off to Hawaii to get married and stayed there for our honeymoon.  Came back and had a reception at home a few weeks later.  Was much easier that way.  We actually got to enjoy the reception instead of being tired out from all the planning and running around associated with a big wedding.  I tend to think most guests (the guys at least...) really don't like sitting through wedding ceremonies and just like the party afterwards.
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