What's your love language?
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"This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention," Chapman writes. Meaningful conversation, eye contact and listening are all important factors in spending quality time together.
-- By Kristin Wong
Is your love language 'quality time?’
Words of affirmation
"Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other," Chapman writes on his blog. And when you've been in a relationship for years, it's often easy to stop reassuring, complimenting or encouraging your partner. But for many, these affirmations are critical to communicating love.
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Are 'affirmations' your preferred communication style?
"If you are always giving others encouraging words, then ‘words of affirmation’ is most likely your primary language," Chapman tells us. People who speak this love language are often sensitive and may not handle criticism well. Your partner might not understand that you need reassurance; let him or her know affirmations are the easiest way to communicate love to you.
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Yes, gifts can be valuable expressions of love, too. "A partner who treasures every gift that’s made, large and small, and is very hurt when a gift isn’t given, speaks the language of 'receiving gifts,'” explains bestselling author Gretchen Rubin. The gift-giving adage, "it's the thought that counts," definitely applies here.
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Do gifts make you feel loved?
If you're the type of person who loves giving gifts, then chances are receiving them is what makes you feel loved. Don't be afraid to tell your partner that presents are symbolic of affection for you. But let them know it's not about the gift—it's the thought behind it.
Acts of service
Sharing chores, helping with errands—these are great ways to make a significant other feel loved. When you carry some of your partner's load, it’s an act of service and it shows you care.
Do 'acts of service' show love best?
If you're a fan of chivalry, then chances are "acts of service" is the most effective love dialect for you. This is an easy area to neglect in relationships, so be sure to communicate your native language to your partner.
Many of us express love in tactile ways, and that's why physical touch is one of the five main languages of love. Hugging, holding hands and having sex are all physical ways of communicating love.
Do you speak the language of touch?
"If you are often asking, 'would you give me a back rub?' then physical touch is likely your language," Chapman tells MSN. Physical embrace makes you feel quite loved, and you probably literally reach out for affection. Sex is likely important to you, but don't be mistaken—this isn't just about sex. A simple hug from your partner can express volumes.
Kristin Wong is a freelance writer and frequent contributor to MSN Living.