Top wedding guest complaints (and how to avoid them)
The dress code was too strict
Black tie for a beach wedding? Guests will most definitely groan. Make sure your dress code is appropriate to the venue. And if you give guests a too-specific set of instructions, they'll probably roll their eyes at that, too.
By Kristin Wong
The hotel was too expensive
When you've thrown down thousands on your reception, the hotel cost might seem like chump change. But keep in mind: your out-of-town guests have their finances to consider. Opt for a comfortable, mid-range hotel with reasonable rates to keep everyone happy.
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The reception started too late
After they've watched you walk down the aisle, your guests are ready to party. Of course, you've likely put a lot of work into planning the reception. Guests will appreciate your efforts all the more if it starts at a reasonable time.
I couldn't eat the food
Try to ask about food allergies or dietary restrictions in advance. It's hard to consider everyone's requirements and preferences. But serving a crowd-pleasing menu with vegetarian options will make sure most people are covered.
I had to sit with strangers at the reception
Try to make sure your guests are seated at a table with at least one person they know. Sitting at a table full of strangers can be uncomfortable, especially if they all know each other, and you're the odd person out.
Dinner was served too late
When stomachs start growling, it's only a matter of time before the complaining starts. Waiting too long for dinner is a big wedding guest annoyance. Make sure your dinner will be served at a reasonable time, and consider offering hors d'oeuvres before the big meal.
The music was terrible
If the music is too loud or too out-of-place for a wedding (Dubstep, maybe?), guests might want to escape. Make sure people can still hear their conversations, but don't be afraid to turn up the volume, either--when it's appropriate. And if guests aren't feeling the vibe, ask the DJ to mix it up.
The date/time was inconvenient
Guests will likely complain if they have to do some serious schedule rearranging to make it to your wedding. However, if you're intent on having your wedding on a holiday or a specific time during the week, you can minimize the complaints by announcing the date well in advance. This will give guests plenty of time to prepare.
I couldn't bring my kids
It's certainly okay to have a "grown-ups only" policy for your wedding. But etiquette experts recommend you call your guests who have children, to make sure they know your wedding isn't child-friendly.
I had to pay for my drinks
If you're picking up the tab, it can be heartbreaking to see all the half-sipped glasses of booze lying around after the reception. Still, most wedding planners agree that cash bars are a no-no. If you can't afford an open bar, consider serving a limited selection of beer and wine.