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Should cheating ruin your career?

It can potentially ruin your marriage, but what about your professional life?

By The Married Chick Nov 14, 2012 3:09PM
Photo: ShutterstockBy now, you’ve heard a lot about General David Petraeus’s cheating scandal with biographer Paula Broadwell. The affair cost the four-star general and top commander in Iraq and Afghanistan dearly. For starters, it led to his resignation as CIA Director. And now, the media is speculating about the state of his 38-year marriage to Holly Petraeus.

Experts largely agree that the general did the right thing by resigning. Petraeus "understood that his institutional leadership was fatally compromised, by his own actions,” says Heather Hurlburt, executive director of the National Security Network, in a US News & World Report column. “You can’t both lead the CIA and recover from a public betrayal of your family,” adds Mieke Eoyang, director of Third Way’s National Security Program.

But what about the rest of us? If you’re, say, a journalist or a doctor or a teacher, could cheating on your spouse sink your career? (And I’m excluding affairs with minors here, just to be clear.) In my opinion, what you do in your personal life shouldn’t be cause for dismissal from your job, so long as national security isn’t at stake and you're meeting your employer’s expectations. That doesn’t mean I think it’s right to cheat on your spouse -- it’s definitely not -- but I don’t think that an affair should have a negative impact on your livelihood.

What do you think?

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Nov 19, 2012 10:35PM

MSN all i remember from you is that when Clinton got caught you and every other liberal news outlet told us it was none of our business, it was personal STFU and on and on and on.  so why is it now you want our opinions or feel that its a news worthy question?  of course they should lose their jobs, it can ruin their lives and marriages and they will do nearly anything to cover it up so that means they could give away secrets or worse in order to keep it quite. you know that and thats why when a president gets caught he should be gone, because of Clinton 12 yr olds are having unprotected oral sex because they were told its not sex.....by you !!!!!!!

Nov 19, 2012 6:57AM
It's none of our business! Should everybody's dirty laundry be aired in public? I didn't think so.
Nov 19, 2012 6:09AM
  my private life is just  that private, isnt  anyone bussiness what i do when im home from work,  i dotn tell anyone what i do on weekends or wher ei go  or niether has anyone met my gf's  or  wives lol  as long as aperson does thier job  and  it doesnt affect thier work? then it is no one bussiness,but ia lso dont belong to face book or myspace, or any social networking sites.seems everyone wants to know what you do in your private life,  i dotn want anyone to know anything  , none of thier bussiness, wheni get off work? it is just htat  im off work,  my weekends are mine not the companies, i dont  tell anyone at work what i did either,whent hey ask? i said  really none of your bussiness and i leave it at that,even my freidns dont have a clue what i do or where i go or anything at all about my personal private life,
Nov 19, 2012 5:58AM

cheating on wives has become rampant among politician and govt employees since clinton got away with it..as far as Petraeus is concerned it is a more grave matter. this two sisters who appear to be socializing with people at the white house and the fact that they throw parties in Florida and invite top brass from the base,is matter of concern. f.b.i. should investgate them and their brother to the fullest as they could be spying for the saudi govt or afgan govt. bromwell i believe involved them in this crazy thing as she is very smart and has served in the intelligence dept of the u.s. govt.i believe that their is more than the eye can see in this affair .

c.i.a. and f.b.i. should investigate these people to the fullest and in the meantime cancel their privilages at the base and bar from entering the white house.

Nov 19, 2012 5:18AM
What a joke! Cheating and lying got Clinton re-elected by stupid people without morals. His most public  media affair embarrassed this country beyond repair. SHAME, SHAME, SHAME....... Go General, get yours too!
Nov 19, 2012 5:08AM
I know no more about what went on between the good general  and the reporter. We will probably never know all of the details. Should an affair sink a career? I would say no, but I am in the minority on that issue. Americans are for the most part prudish and do not at all tolerate such behavior. My spin on having an affair is that is it comes to sexual relations both participants should not enter into those relations if they are not prepared to loose their families, careers or most anything else along the way. If caught they would leave their respective families for each other or to live a single life again. If you are going to cheat once on your spouse you will do it again. Break all bonds and start from scratch and in the process determine why you had to have the affair to begin with.

Generals lead armies. This man couldn't keep it in his pants.

As a quote....."it;s good to be King" ,,,,for he had to...the schmuck.

Nov 19, 2012 2:39AM

The poll asked, "do you think infidelity should cost people their jobs?"  In this case the question should have been, "do you think failure to report marital infidelity, should be cause for dismissal."  Those who hold top-secret security clearances are required to notify superiors of any information that could be used to blackmail them into revealing classified information.  Marital infidelity falls into that category.

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