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The ex-files: Awkward encounters

Readers share their tales of disastrous run-ins with former flames.

By The Married Chick Jan 18, 2013 10:56PM
Photo: Girl covering eyes // ShutterstockAh, ex-boyfriends. As hard as they are to forget, sometimes they’re even harder to avoid. For instance, I was out thrift-shopping with a friend recently when we stopped in a small vintage boutique to look around. When we walked in, I immediately heard a familiar voice and turned around to see my ex and his new girlfriend hand-in-hand. I quickly ducked behind a yellow fur coat in hopes of avoiding eye contact, but unfortunately the Big Bird disguise wasn’t as inconspicuous as I’d hoped, and we were forced to exchange hellos.

While I thought that my encounter was uncomfortable, it’s nothing compared to the stories that these Nest readers had to share. Whether it’s an unexpected reunion at a wedding or an awkward run-in at the hair salon, these tales prove that some people are better left in the past.

“I was the maid of honor in my college roommate's wedding and my ex was there as an usher. I brought my boyfriend of seven months (now my husband) as my date. My ex pretty much pouted the whole time.” –Kelli A.

“I went in for a haircut and there was one girl available – my husband’s ex. I walked out because I knew I wouldn’t have hair left since she was mad at the fact that I was with him.” –Andrea B.

“My husband and I were dating only about a year when we ran into both our exes the same night in the same establishment. It was very uncomfortable because both of them treated us very badly.” –Ashley J.B

“I was shopping with my sister and we cut across a sporting goods aisle. All of a sudden, my ex turned down the same aisle. I started to panic trying to think of what I was going to say when he nodded at me and kept on walking!”
Amanda W.

“When my husband and I were dating, he wanted to introduce me to a female friend of his from high school. When we met, she brought her boyfriend who -- unbeknownst to me -- was the guy I dated when I was in college! Our relationship didn't end very well, so it was certainly awkward when we saw each other.” –Jaclyn P.

“I ran into my ex at a restaurant we used to frequent. If it wasn’t already bad enough, I was seated within eyesight of his table and he was with the couple we used to double date with.” –Caitlin D.

“My now-husband had to sue his ex for unpaid rent -- and he used me (his new girlfriend at the time) as a character reference in court! Talk about awkward…”
Courtney S.

“Ran into an ex-boyfriend this past November at Disney World of all places! We were shuffled into the Haunted Mansion together, right toward each other (along with my husband and my ex's wife!). Talk about the scare of my life!”
Lauren C.

What awkward run-ins have you experienced with an ex?

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Jan 21, 2013 6:49PM
While I was with my ex she was a blonde, it ended badly. I haven't seen her since the late 80's, she's married now to the man that she was adulterous with and has a 20 year old son in College, how do I know? The Internet takes us places and we unexpectedly eventually run into someone we knew from before.
Nowadays she's a brunette with thin hair and a haggard look to her and has her fathers BIG eye bags, who uploads tons of other people's christian music that she plays on the acoustic guitar as she now attends Church regularly. I don't hate her even tho the outcome was a pretty bad deal all around. I'm just very happy that I am no longer married to her or her judgmental family. Ah, peace!
Jan 21, 2013 6:12PM
My ex showed up to my house unannounced late one night.  (I was hoping for maybe a booty call but NOOOO, she wanted to show me her new Lexus her uncle bought her) To make things worse it was a day or two before halloween and I bought a blow-up doll as part of my costume.  I forgot that I had blown the thing up and it was standing on my bed.  She saw it so that made for a weird conversation......(she didn't go for the 3some proposal).......gotta love the exes.
Jan 21, 2013 5:42PM
My husband and I met through my ex; we started dating many years later.  They are still friends so we all see each other often, slightly awkward at times.  The most awkward is my ex's wife, they started dating at the same time he and I dated so there was a little bit of overlap.  Even though she and I never exchanged words or anything like that (I was never mad with her) she is NEVER around when we socialize (two years).  Last weekend was the first time I recall exchanging pleasantires with her and I got so nervous I could barely speak...way to be an adult about it!  Lol...hopefully, she'll continue to be open and we can be friends... that woudl be awesome. 
Jan 21, 2013 5:11PM

 People are so dramatic, life happens and things can not be avoided. I tried dating after my divorce and found the single world even scarier than it was before. After years of first dates that would never find me wanting a second, I eventually ended up friends with my ex. Near the end of her second marriage we were talking on a regular basis, with the comfort of thousands of miles between us.  

  When it was time to dissolve the second marriage, she looked to me for support. Half willingly, and half undecided I accepted to help her move back to her home town. After years of separation, all of the things that have gone unsaid were forced into conversation.

  We both have had time to forgive and heal from the past. Now able to talk without fear of consequences or intimidation. Two years later we are still together, and happier than we were when we were married.

  I can honestly say that the only scary situation was wondering how the first minutes would feel. Sometimes what is right is right and there is no way to fight it. With her I at least know what to expect and how to read her emotions . I do not like the confusion of guessing what women want, or how they feel. Communication is probably the biggest obstacle in a good relationship. If people could be honest and admit their feelings things can go much smoother.

  If you want to be happy, leave the white lies at home and be brutally honest. You can not expect others to read your mind, and be able to make you happy if you are not being completely honest with them.

  One last thing to consider, if you have had many bad relationships, look in the mirror and figure out why. You are either picking the wrong people, or causing part of the problem.

Jan 21, 2013 4:59PM
I do not, and never have bought the b.s women pull when it comes to relationships or getting out of them. They enter relationships for any number of reasons, and leave them for just as many dubious ones. Some people and go for the whole "friends" thing, but I don't. It's just another way of saying "she wanted out of it, figured it was the way to go, and I just had to go along with it."  That's before you start counting in all the conniving friends who want they break up. They scheme and long to get out of a relationship only to repeat the same fricken cycle, oblivious to all the lives they ruin in the process. 

If I had a dollar for every women who whined about "good" man, and then go after the first dirt-bag they can find, I'd be a rich man. Prior to a break up, women try, sentence, and convict the person they're in a relationship with. A majority of break ups these days are one sided, from women who let their emotions get them into trouble. Why do women react the way they do? Cause half of the time they don't tell their husbands or significant others about their exes, and never fully break the connections. 
Jan 21, 2013 4:47PM
My EX was my best friend before and still is, oddest part is my current wife likes her even more than I. We take her on trips, to dinner and shows. I left her because I couldn't get along with her married boyfriend (while we were still married). And out of this current relationship, the best part is knowing she's still waiting for the married guy that will never leave his wife. And my wife and I are so happy and comfortable that we can include her on vacations, trips, dinners and shows. Guess it's sort of a Karma thing.
Jan 21, 2013 4:46PM

With four children and 11 grandchildren in the same small town, family is important.  The key to continue to constantly forgive.  Absolutely necessary as we are together nearly twice a month for a family event, and yes at public events I and my husband sit with my ex.

Maybe you think there was nothing to forgive.  Wrong.  I was left with his bills to file my second bankruptcy, girlflriends, and I had no job because I had to resign because of serious illness at age of 57 and 40 years of marriage.  It is possible if God is first in your life and not what my heart desired.  I had to let go and give it up and it got better.

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