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How to Be a “Happy B*tch”

Sound advice from one happy b*tch to another.

By The Married Chick Jul 5, 2012 9:02PM

Does the term “happy b*tch” sound like a contradiction to you? Well, it doesn’t to Keryl Pesce, who wrote the book on it -- literally. In fact, happiness guru Keryl created an entire brand called Happy Bitch to help empower women -- both coupled up and single alike -- to take control of their own bliss. They even sell bottles of wine under the brand name -- and if anyone’s a happy b*tch when she’s drinking vino, it’s me, so I can definitely get on board with this agenda. 

Keryl encourages us to remember that -- even if we’re in relationships -- it’s totally okay to make ourselves a priority. ”The majority of us fail to realize the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself,” Keryl says. “We put our wants and needs last, make no time to do what we want, shelve our passions and then look around at our lives, scratching our heads wondering how we got here.” 

Here are Keryl’s top five ways to look out for number one: 

1. Decide today to have a better relationship with yourself. Carpe diem, b*tches! Show yourself love as you’d show love to your significant other. All the happy vibes will have ripple effects on other areas of your life too. 

2. Be aware of negative self-talk. Sure, some of us simply have self-deprecating senses of humor. But Keryl says that talking crap about yourself -- even as a joke -- slowly programs you for failure and unhappiness. She advises not to say anything about yourself that you wouldn’t say to your spouse, parent or child. 

3. Lose the guilt. Keryl says the happiest and most magnetic people you know make a habit of giving themselves a break instead of a guilt trip when they mess up or feel they’ve disappointed someone. In other words, forgive yourself and the rest will follow. 

4. Exercise. This one should be a no-brainer, but we often forget that working out not only gets our bodies fit, but whips our minds and emotions into shape too. If you hate hitting the gym, Keryl advises pursuing an activity you enjoy, like biking, gardening and even having more sex. Endorphins, baby! 

5. Take a time-out. Always feel like you’re hustling? Your schedule can only be overextended if you let it be. Keryl strongly suggests (and we concur) carving out time each day to do nothing but relax. Even a small amount of time to clear your head can make a huge difference. 

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Jul 11, 2012 3:49AM
If you want some real preaching. Read some Eckhart Tolle books. That guy knows what's up!
Jul 11, 2012 3:48AM
This lady doesn't give a sh*t about anyone. Just another Hollywood Guru trying to get paid and make a name for herself. These people have zero credibility and just talk out of their ****! All these Guru's do is repeat what people having been preaching for the past 2,000 years just in a modern context. All i got from this article is buy my book and my wine so I can get paid. Just another fake preying on weak people.  I can sum up this book in one sentence. Take responsibility for your lives people. They End. and it was free
Jul 10, 2012 8:19PM
thank you very much for this article, now i have to take a crap.
Jul 10, 2012 1:54PM

I fully accept this form of 21rst century feminism :)    Thank-you for freeing us women who reject Society trying to  DIC-tate what makes or should make a woman happy and content.

I am truly sick of  ( trash ) Cosmopolitan like magazines and movies spewing such BS as " How to please or get  a man"!!  

Why settle? for just ANY man?!   And please do not lower your standards,Ladies!

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