5 sexy steps to get out of your date rut
The date-night idea rut
Oh, dinner at that Italian place again? Sounds exciting. Not. "Shake it up by doing something physical on your date!" says "flirt expert" Rachel DeAlto. "Get your blood rushing by playing a one-on-one sport like tennis, volleyball or rock climbing." Then take advantage of that endorphin rush when you get back home and engage in another physical sport in the bedroom. You might want to shower first.
The dinner rut
Spending the night in with a romantic meal? Great! But please, don't just whip up one of your go-to dishes, turn on the TV and call it a date. "Date night dinners are less about the meal than the delivery," says DeAlto. Your partner's favorite meal might be peanut butter and jelly, but if it's served by candlelight with your undivided attention (and in an outfit that makes you feel sexy), it will be better than dinner at any Zagat-rated restaurant. There’s nothing wrong with cooking in a lacy teddy, ladies. Nothing wrong at all.
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The exhaustion rut
"Nothing is less romantic than trying to push through your exhaustion to have fun," says DeAlto. She suggests taking the show on the road. If you're overworked, overstressed and overextended -- but don't have the cash to take an all-out vacay -- embark on a staycation weekend instead of forcing a date night. "You can sleep in and spend quality time with your partner. It's a win-win," she adds.
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The conversation rut
Nothing kills the date night buzz like talking about bills and work. Save the bitching for another time. Instead, "Take the time to get to know each other -- again -- on date nights," says DeAlto. "Ask each other questions about your childhood, such as, 'What was your favorite memory?' or 'Who was your favorite teacher?' No matter how long you've been together, there's always something new to discover."
The sex rut
Who hasn't experienced this? "Date night was fun, honey. I'm gonna hit the hay." Uh, no. You've got to keep that momentum going. But how? By sexting, suggests DeAlto. Yes, while on the date. "Nothing spices things up like a few naughty messages -- especially if it's out of character," she explains. "Tell him what you want to do with him when he gets home (or what you want him to do to you). Be as explicit as you're comfortable with. The point is to take him by surprise and get his imagination going!"
Nestpert: Rachel DeAlto, relationship expert and founder of FlipMe Flirting Cards.