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Revealed: The hardest marriage vow to keep

Couples share the toughest part of saying "I do."

By Kristin Wong Jan 2, 2013 4:51PM

Who doesn't get goose bumps when couples exchange wedding vows? It's impossible not to be moved when two people promise their lives together, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.

Photo: Lane Oatey/Getty ImagesBut it's all too easy to forget the significance of those vows in the middle of an ugly marital spat. And according to a recent survey, some vows are harder to keep than others.

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CBS News polled a random sample of 1,100 adults across the country and asked their thoughts on marriage, love, sex and relationships. One of those questions was: "Which one of these marriage vows is the hardest to keep?" The top answer varied between men and women.

Thirty-two percent of women found "for better or for worse" to be the toughest vow, while the highest percentage of men (27 percent), found it most difficult "to be faithful."

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Conversely, 25 percent of women also found "to be faithful" a tough vow to keep, while 23 percent of men had trouble with "for better or for worse."

Sixteen percent of women said "in sickness and in health" was the hardest vow, compared with a close 17 percent for men. Eighteen percent of men and 12 percent of women said "for richer, for poorer" was the biggest struggle.

But the survey didn't stop at marriage vows. They also asked couples which aspect of living with their partner they found most annoying. Thirty-six percent of respondents said "TV choices" drove them crazy, while 16 percent said household chores caused many annoyances.

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Sharing a bathroom came in third, followed by sharing a bed.

And the old stereotype about annoying in-laws may be officially outdated. Seventy-one percent of those polled said they get along well with their significant other's family.

Love at first sight? Fifty-eight percent of married people believe in it, as do 66 percent of unmarried couples in a relationship. Singles are split on the phenomenon—only 48 percent buy it.

What do you think—do these findings ring true? What do you think is the hardest marriage vow to keep?

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Jan 3, 2013 8:32AM
in case sarcasm was missed! plus, bad spelling
Jan 3, 2013 8:28AM

Marrige is just a word

Integrity is the truth

Jan 3, 2013 8:15AM

To honor and obey! 

It sounds like each person is a slave to the other; not an easy vow to uphold.

Jan 3, 2013 7:44AM

my marriage was over the day i got married. My mother in law offered my spouse a divorce lawyer, the day i got married to the person I took my vows'.


it was hell from that day on no (intimate see) our love life was nothing at all not a kiss a hug or more we mite as well have been strangers. four years i put up with this then one day i found some one who gave me what i needed just once it was not two or three times just once. we took our vows they did not mean a thing if they did i would still me married for better or worse in sickness an health mean nothing in to days world we never hit each other or any thing like that . you would think we would get a long so well we had so much in commend i do mean nothing my mother in law served me my Divorce papers


why did i ever get married ??? NEVER AGAIN my money is my money my bed is my bed

Jan 3, 2013 7:27AM
I believe this quote was made in the 15th. century. I don't remember who wrote it.
Jan 3, 2013 7:23AM
When two people get married they become one, But remain two fools.
Jan 3, 2013 6:42AM

Well American Women are probably the worst for keeping a marriage vow.  They have no concept of their pioneering foresisters and what they went through to make sure that they did their part to help the family survive.  Women knew their place and the family was nurtured.  Nowadays we have just the opposite.  Women trying to wear the pants and the resulting breakup of the traditional family.  If they aren't trying to wear the pants then they are pulling down their skirts. 

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