Do women make men better people?
Men need women, like, a lot, according to some.
A recent article in The New York Times took the old phrase, "Behind every great man stands a great woman" and updated it to "Inside every great man is a selfish dude who won't do nice things for other people until he gets some ladies in his life who make him want to be a better man."
I'm exaggerating, but not that much. The article, entitled "Why Men Need Women," examined what makes some super-rich men, like Bill Gates, extremely philanthropic while others are basically swimming in their own money like Scrooge McDuck. And as you may have guessed from the title, the proposed answer is female presence in these men's lives.
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Coming back to Bill Gates, the shining example of philanthropy used here, evidently he originally resisted setting up a charitable foundation, but three years later was ranked the third most generous philanthropist in America. He credits his mother and his wife as inspiration for his charitable giving, and he also had a daughter during that three-year period.
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While I'm all for men and women — or just, people generally — learning from each other and becoming better people, I had to ask the Smitten team if I was being unfair if my knee-jerk reaction was annoyance that men need to feel an emotional tie to a woman to be compassionate people. A peek at the comments revealed that I wasn't the only one who took issue with it, and for a variety of reasons: Why does this seem to suppose all women are soft and nurturing? Is this generalization about men harmful? (I don't actually think all men are selfish misers! And for the record, I think plenty of men are good influences on others themselves.) And why should women be used as a good influence on men when men still get to be the ones in control of almost everything? (Are there even women chief executives at 10,000 Danish companies? I hope so, but I'm not so sure.) All good points.
The old "You make me want to be a better man" thing has been used time and again in the world of romantic stories, and it's nice to think you could be an inspiration for good in someone's life. But is it really flattering, or would it just be better if a guy wanted to be better of his own accord, whether or not he had sisters or daughters or you, the perfect girlfriend? You decide and tell me what you think!
Does your guy have sisters/daughters/other close relationships with women in his life? Do you think it's made him a more compassionate person? What do you think about the studies on men's increased generosity when influenced by women? Do you think you've made your guy a better man, or has he made you better ... or both?
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I read 'responses' to my post "women don't make me a better man / person."
GOD, I guess it appears that some folks just can't read with comprehension.
You can see my refutation to the asinine comments ("get therapy") etc below.
Anyway have a hap hap happy day.'
God bless EVERYONE,
(Except those bastard Islamo-fascist terrorist nut-jobs.)
We just need to leave their countries and
let the Shiites kill more Sunnis and
let more Sunnis kill more Shiites. = Problem solved.
I have ONE question? Why do ALL Islamic / Arab /middle east clowns
HATE the Jews? What did the Jews do and how can that be rectified?
#2: Why do American nut-jobs (Mel Gibson) hate the Jews?
#3" Why is their 'battle cry' "ALLAH AKBAR, Death to America; Death to the Jews."
IF America was destroyed (earthquakes) and the Jews were all killed (Iran nuke) HOW would that IMPROVE the Muslim world and Islamic belief system??
How many great musicians started out as a geeky kid wanting to score women??
Women have always been a driving force in male achievement, whether they like to admit it or not. Personally, I have always dated men that were raised with women, i.e., mom & sisters. They are kinder, more considerate, and more emotionally open. Women DO rub off on you guys. Maybe due to us nagging or scolding or forcing you to talk about your feelings, (yikes!). I think most men are born wired to only think about survival, cause hey, that's what mattered in evolutionary terms. Women were born to nurture. That is how the human race survived. And come on, wives tell you what to do & you say yes dear to avoid an argument. I'm sure that's where Mr. Gates' charitable foundation came from lol.
Only a fool cannot recognize that pound for pound , men are more powerful in every way.
We love women and need them in our lives, so they survive and so do we. when this link dies , as it is supposed neanderthal ate their breeding stock,so would we perish.
without women we are not men,only another human, we rise up on their support.
Thank you God for eve and not lisa.....
My head is spinning with a million sarcastic replies...
I'm just going to have to say "NO!" to this one and leave it at that.
It took me ten years just to get him to stop lying about eating all the oreos.
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