Divorces increase after the holidays
Many couples ring in the New Year with a split.
January is widely regarded as "divorce month," and for good reason. More divorces are filed in January than any other month.
In fact, there's such a spike in divorce filings after the holidays, professionals prepare themselves for the boom. Divorce lawyer James Gross of law firm Thyden, Gross & Callahan told YourTango:
"Some attorneys take the last two weeks of the year off to get ready for the rush. January really does see a lot of divorces."
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"People somehow expect the job of the season is going to correct a troubled marriage," Wall says. "And it never does."
"Divorce is far less a stigma than it used to be. However, the current economic conditions may force many people to remain unhappily married due to financial constraints."
I've always said I can love many but I can't live with any of them. Marriage requires effort, compromise and work. For those who just give up, what did you learn? What did you accomplish? What are you expecting? It's so difficult for people to think beyond their own self interest today. My wife and I do well because all of the decisions we make has to pass the litmus test of what is in the best interest of the relationship. If it works for the relationship, it will work for us individually.
If you need to have a boys night out or girls night out once a week, than maybe you don't need to be in a marriage. If you need separate vacations, then you do not need a marriage. Marriage can be defined so many different ways. But if you do not want to commit yourself to the other person, if they are not your closest and most trusted friend, if they are not the one you want to spend time with when you have spare time, then don't get married.
And before having children, make sure you have spent years with each other. It doesn't work to bring children into the marriage until you have truly bonded as a couple. And it takes a lot of time to make that happen.
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