Men No Longer Willing to Pay For First Date, Survey Finds
Let's split hairs over splitting the bill, shall we?
As the gender gap narrows in the Western world, more men seem to be speaking up about something they believe to be unfair: paying for the first date.
In a recent survey, only a third of men polled said they would be willing to pay for a first date. More than half of men said going dutch on a first date is fair. Most men surveyed said they would ask for a contribution from their date.
One might look at these stats and say chivalry is dead, but is it erroneous to equate chivalry with money in the first place?
"This may sound a little unromantic, but our poll has revealed that, for many, they simply don’t have as much cash as they may once have…and therefore are keen to ensure their spending doesn’t spiral."
So perhaps it's less about gender equality and more about the recession. In fact, women still statistically make less than men. But at the same time, more women are marrying men who make less than them. Personally, the majority of women in my life actually earn more than their male significant others, and I've noticed that those women also take turns paying for dates.
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The spokesperson continues:
"Some of those surveyed pointed to the fact that the gap between male and female pay [is] still shrinking and therefore it [isn't] unreasonable to expect some money on their part."
The gap is narrowing, sure, but we aren't there yet. That being said, should money have anything to do with romance in the first place? The Daily Mail reported:
"The true gentlemen out there are numbered," and "It seems that chivalry is dead…"
While it's been instilled in us over the years that chivalry is associated with paying for a woman's meal, perhaps it's time to socially evolve from this notion. Admittedly, while I think things should be split in an established relationship, I still instinctively find it romantic for a guy to pay on the first date, too. But can't men still be gentlemen without cash being involved? Or is there something to be said for being old-fashioned?
Either way, the survey continues, with one in five men saying they'd be happy to pay for parts of the night, including a round of drinks, but forking over money for the whole evening is out of the question. Five percent of men said they'd be happy to allow the women to pay for the whole shebang. A whopping 91 percent said that they would leave a bad date early in order to save some money.
"Increasing financial pressures was cited as the number one reason behind the decision; however, many of those polled stated that they felt it was unfair, or even a little embarrassing, to pay for the date," the spokesperson continued.
One suggestion that's emerged from this debate is that the person who suggests the date should pay for the date. Sounds reasonable enough.
But what do you think? Should men still be expected to pay for the first date?
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I'm 43 and was raised that the man should pay for the date. Most men that I've dated (my age or older) have agreed. The only different 'rule' that I've come across is we'd meet at a mutual, public spot and if we're not in to each other then we would go our separate ways or if we were interested in getting to know each other we'd go to a restaurant.
I'm not a gold digger by any means and I have no problem paying for following dates. But if a guy is too cheap to pay for a meal, then I'm not interested.
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