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In Japan, There's a Toilet for Divorce

Let's hope it doesn't get clogged.

By Kristin Wong Jun 14, 2012 3:30PM

Photo: Vstock LLC/Getty ImagesIn the Gunma Prefecture in central Japan, women have been praying to the porcelain god, but it has nothing to do with recovering from a night of binge drinking. The Mantokuji Temple is known as the "divorce temple," and within it are a couple of toilets that many modern Japanese women hope will answer their prayers.

Historically, the ancient Buddhist temple served as a refuge for women wanting to leave bad marriages. Tadashi Takagi, the Temple museum director, explained:

"In the past the Mantokuji was a divorce temple. There are only two in Japan and in the whole world. Originally it provided the possibility to break off with bad relationships. Women used to come here to have legal protection and divorce from their husbands."

Today, the Temple serves a similar purpose.  Many Japanese believe their gods are present in everything, including toilets, which they call the Kawaya Kami deity. Many women still visit Mantokuji, write down their divorce wishes on paper and flush it down the toilet, symbolic of their split. The ritual is called enkiri—severing ties. Takagi explained:

"The idea today is that people get rid of the bad things in their life and become happy."

But Mantokuji isn't limited to divorcees-to-be. Visitors can perform enkiri with anything. According to the Telegraph, one woman flushed her obesity down the toilet.

And it's not just about cutting ties; visitors can also partake in enmusubi—strengthening ties—although they'll be flushing an entirely different toilet.  There's a black lavatory in the temple for those who wish to strengthen the ties in their marriage.

Japan's divorce rate has quadrupled over the past 50 years, so Mantokuji has become a Mecca for many unhappy wives making the pilgrimage. With modern Japanese divorce laws, it may not serve the exact purpose it did hundreds of years ago, but it's still a symbolic sanctuary.

Takagi admits there's been some confusion at Mantokuji.

"There [have been] people who take it for a real lavatory and actually use it," he said.  "But since we have put a sign indicating that the toilets are for praying, almost nobody makes that mistake anymore."

Key word: Almost.

Photo: Vstock LLC/Getty Images

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26Comments
Jun 16, 2012 1:23AM
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Just flush your problems down the toilet.How refreshing...
Jun 16, 2012 2:08AM
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just flush the **** down the toilet.
Jun 17, 2012 11:49AM
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 I sit on the throne every morning hoping that the hideous demon inside me shall be released  into the bowl of eternity and there is enough toilet paper for the job at hand!

Jun 16, 2012 7:58AM
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I just flushed an ounce of weed down the toilet as the cops were knocking on my door, damn.  But I'm still here to write about it, ha! 
Jun 16, 2012 5:41AM
Jun 16, 2012 4:36AM
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If you read the article, it states that they flush pieces of paper with their writings on it. They do not flush their rings.
Jun 16, 2012 8:38AM
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Why would anyone think a Toilet is a God?

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