Speed Dating Event: Size 10 Need Not Apply
Guys, do you really want to partake in a dating event that would ban Christina Hendricks?
With the surplus of niche dating sites that have been popping up, singles can find quite specific matches for themselves—everything from farmers to Trekkies. But earlier this month, when a NYC-based speed dating organization held an event for skinny people only, they created a bit of controversy. The event description read:
"We all have relationship 'deal-breakers', and that does not make us shallow, we're just single New Yorkers that know what we want and are attracted to."
Agreed. Having an appearance preference, when it comes to dating, doesn’t make anyone shallow. But something does seem shallow about a dating event that's only focused on looks. Their rebuttal is a valid one:
"Obviously there is more to it than just height or size, but for many of us that initial 'attraction' factor is at least a starting point."
Using that logic, one might also argue—why do people chastise women who date sugar daddies? Isn't 'rich' their starting point? Seems many of the reasons we criticize women who seek rich men could also apply to men who seek skinny women. It should be mentioned that there were no apparent requirements for men at the "Skinny Minny" dating event.
There's quite a bit of defending this event, which is weird to me, because when we discussed this dating site, for "beautiful people only," the response was fairly negative. Isn't it kind of the same thing?
Perhaps the reason folks are more accepting of "skinny people only" is that the organization explains their stance and defends it, while Darwin Dating is unabashed about their "no ugly people" policy. The latter almost begs criticism.
At any rate, the "Skinny Minny" event description continues:
"Guys, no need to worry about meeting a biggie-size chick 'down-sizing' to an 8 like when you're dating online. We'll be checking labels at the door!"
Label checking? My initial reaction is that this is incredibly insulting, but hey, if you're going to subject yourself to this, I suppose you have it coming. Which also leads me to wonder about the fate of the attendees. Let's say you're a size 8, bordering a 10. You meet a guy here, hit it off, and you guys start dating. Wouldn't you be paranoid every time you had a calorie splurge? After all, his tastes were specific enough that he attended an event where one size up from you was off-limits. So what happens if your weight fluctuates?
Everyone is certainly entitled to their own preferences. But rounding people up based only on appearance? What do you think—is it vapid, or is it merely a starting point?
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I think the men who attend this event are superfical jerks and the women are gold-diggers.These men are cursed because they look around and can only see beauty in the supermodel types of women.Life must be less enjoyable for them because in their mind more than half of the women out there are indiresable (fat).To me beauty comes in many shapes and sizes fat or thin (JUST NOT RUNWAY THIN !!).
What if all the rich and famous men all started dating just fat women tomorrow.How absurd right.Just think of all the women pigging out willing to pack on the extra pounds just to join the elete(****s) of the world.
A size 10 is considered 'fat'???? What total bs. Most men found Marylin Monroe gorgeous and sexy and she was a size 12. That means Marylin would have been barred from this party. What superficial people must have showed up at that party. I suppose if you didn't look like Twiggy or a Somalian refugee that you couldn't get in. Total rubbish.
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