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Speed Dating Event: Size 10 Need Not Apply

Guys, do you really want to partake in a dating event that would ban Christina Hendricks?

By Kristin Wong May 24, 2012 3:32PM

Photo: Hybrid Images/Getty ImagesWith the surplus of niche dating sites that have been popping up, singles can find quite specific matches for themselves—everything from farmers to Trekkies. But earlier this month, when a NYC-based speed dating organization held an event for skinny people only, they created a bit of controversy. The event description read:

"We all have relationship 'deal-breakers', and that does not make us shallow, we're just single New Yorkers that know what we want and are attracted to."

Agreed. Having an appearance preference, when it comes to dating, doesn’t make anyone shallow. But something does seem shallow about a dating event that's only focused on looks. Their rebuttal is a valid one:

"Obviously there is more to it than just height or size, but for many of us that initial 'attraction' factor is at least a starting point."

Using that logic, one might also argue—why do people chastise women who date sugar daddies? Isn't 'rich' their starting point? Seems many of the reasons we criticize women who seek rich men could also apply to men who seek skinny women. It should be mentioned that there were no apparent requirements for men at the "Skinny Minny" dating event.

There's quite a bit of defending this event, which is weird to me, because when we discussed this dating site, for "beautiful people only," the response was fairly negative. Isn't it kind of the same thing?

Perhaps the reason folks are more accepting of "skinny people only" is that the organization explains their stance and defends it, while Darwin Dating is unabashed about their "no ugly people" policy. The latter almost begs criticism.

At any rate, the "Skinny Minny" event description continues:

"Guys, no need to worry about meeting a biggie-size chick 'down-sizing' to an 8 like when you're dating online. We'll be checking labels at the door!"

Label checking? My initial reaction is that this is incredibly insulting, but hey, if you're going to subject yourself to this, I suppose you have it coming. Which also leads me to wonder about the fate of the attendees. Let's say you're a size 8, bordering a 10. You meet a guy here, hit it off, and you guys start dating. Wouldn't you be paranoid every time you had a calorie splurge? After all, his tastes were specific enough that he attended an event where one size up from you was off-limits. So what happens if your weight fluctuates?

Everyone is certainly entitled to their own preferences. But rounding people up based only on appearance? What do you think—is it vapid, or is it merely a starting point?

Photo: Hybrid Images/Getty Images

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Jul 5, 2012 12:54PM
Also, I don't see any laws that prohibit larger women from throwing a speed dating event that require the man to be ripped. If they did would it offend heavy men? Does anybody really care? People are too sensative.
Jul 5, 2012 12:47PM
I won't date heavy women because of the health issues. If you can't keep up with me and share in the activities I love like running, climbing, and swimming, I will move on. It's easy to narrow out the feild of possibilities when I can glance at you and tell you're not dedicated  to taking care of yourself. If you dont make that a priority for yourself I do not respect you the way I would a girlfriend. Then again, I'm only attracted to strong women, inside and out.
May 26, 2012 12:59AM
Okee dokee, so what I'm reading is that a lot of weird guys like fat women, sane guys like fat women, shallow ding dongs like thin women, normal men like thin women, blah dee blah dee dah. 

When I was younger, I dated a man who was a self-proclaimed chubby chaser. At the time, I was 50 lbs heavier than I am now. Guess what? I wasn't fat enough for him. He cheated on me a month after we started going out. He cheated on me with a woman who was 300 lbs. I wasn't sure whether that was a blow to my ego or instead a compliment. To this day, I'm still not 100% sure. And as I mentioned earlier, I've also been made insecure by guys who prefer very, very thin women. 

That said, I have faith in humanity. These are just MY experiences and I'm sure lots of women here have had different experiences with different guys. But for the women who are complaining that ALL men are shallow and only prefer thin women, only prefer supermodel types, are women really that much better? I already said in this comments section that I know I'm not. Lots of women (not ALL of them, but a lot of them) have unrealistic expectations for what they want in a man. Life is not a black and white paint palette, so don't make sweeping generalizations. 
May 25, 2012 2:36PM
So the women must be no larger than a size 8.  That's cool.  Can I also assume that all the men are no smaller than 8 inches?
May 25, 2012 10:35AM

I think the men who attend this event are superfical jerks and the women are gold-diggers.These men are cursed because they look around and can only see beauty in the supermodel types of women.Life must be less enjoyable for them because in their mind more than half of the women out there are indiresable (fat).To me beauty comes in many shapes and sizes fat or thin (JUST NOT RUNWAY THIN !!).


What if all the rich and famous men all started dating just fat women tomorrow.How absurd right.Just think of all the women pigging out willing to pack on the extra  pounds just to join the elete(****s) of the world.

May 25, 2012 7:28AM
It's funny how those fatties are whining, they are the first ones to want the tall, dark,handsome,well educated,funny,interesting,rich guy, luckily they'll get some kind of illness,
Beauty is not in the eyes of the beholder, fat women are ugly, but luckily for you fatties we have some weird men that like you too! So dear reader you don't have to put that Big FAT Big Mac in your hand away!

May 25, 2012 4:35AM

A size 10 is considered 'fat'????  What total bs. Most men found Marylin Monroe gorgeous and sexy and she was a size 12. That means Marylin would have been barred from this party. What superficial people must have showed up at that party. I suppose if you didn't look like Twiggy or a Somalian refugee that you couldn't get in. Total rubbish.


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