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Long distance relationships are worth it, study finds

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

By Glamour Magazine Jul 25, 2013 2:52PM

Long-distance relationships are hard, but according to new research, they might be absolutely worth it.

Photo: @mr.jerry/Getty Images A new study says that men and women in long-distance relationships are more likely to share meaningful thoughts and feelings and have a greater sense of intimacy than couples who live close geographically. The couples who lived apart had fewer interactions daily, but they revealed more about themselves in the interactions.

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It's not all Skype roses though. Licensed psychotherapist Rachel Sussman says that while technology has been a driving force in long-distance relationships, this research doesn't account for the "loneliness factor" and the second-guessing that happens when a couple is apart, so long-distance relationships can still be really stressful. (Additionally, the study was conducted among participants whose average age was 21.)

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Still, I think there's a lot to be said for being forced to communicate without being in the same room. Face-to-face time is good but when you're together, it's easy to get distracted  by TV or computers or whatever else. When you have to make the effort to talk to each other on the phone or by webcam, it makes sense that you might actually end up being more intimate.

Just consider that a little something to warm your heart if you're feeling a little lonely in your LDR tonight!

Ever been in a long-distance relationship? Did it feel more intimate? Did it work out or not?

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Aug 26, 2013 1:08AM
The findings of the study mentioned in this article, "that men and women in long-distance relationships are more likely to share meaningful thoughts and feelings and have a greater sense of intimacy than couples who live close geographically." are accurate, and this is not new information. Behavioral Science knows that people who communicate face-to-face experience high social presence effects, meaning their communication is censored due to the fact that they are highly sensitive to the physical presence of one another. In other words, research has shown that people are more comfortable sharing intimate information about themselves when they're not sharing that information in person. It only stands to reason then, that couples who develop relationships via phone, skype, etc. have more intimate, uncensored, personal relationships.
I met my husband on a dating website. Until we were married, we lived two states away from each other. The only way to describe our relationship...it's like heaven on earth.
Aug 25, 2013 3:47AM

Long distance relationships are great, as long as you consider adultery great.

Aug 25, 2013 3:46AM
I completely disagree with this article. You can only truly get to know someone when you are face to face with that person. You need to see how your "significant other" treats you. A person can easily disguise behind phone calls and long distance communication, therefore that person never displays their true colors.
Aug 25, 2013 1:24AM
I was in a long-distance relationship back over 30 years ago....she lived tin Toronto,Canada and I lived in Los Angeles- before Email / texting or Skype....we usded "snail mail" and Ma Bell....we got married in 1978....raised our son, in L.A. till 2006 when she lost her battle with cancer.  I have met someone from another country ("again") and now with the new technology it will be easier to keep in touch....I have had very good success with Long-distance relationships, so I recommend it those who meet someone from "over the pond" or "down under" or "south of the border"... and hope to keep my averages up this  time as well! ^/^
Aug 25, 2013 12:44AM
Quote:  the study was conducted among participants whose average age was 21.

Who the hell did they ask in this study, 16-25 years olds? I was 51 years old when I started my long distance relationship, or at least I think western NY to Hong Kong qualifies long distance. Three years later we were married and life couldn't be better.
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