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Men & women lie about sex to match gender roles

What may seem obvious is now official: we all lie about sex.

By Kristin Wong May 30, 2013 6:45PM

OK, we might not have needed a study to tell us this, but now it’s official: we all lie about our sex number.

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When it comes to the number of sex partners we’ve had, researchers have found that men tend to lie on the side of too many and women fib about having fewer.

Ohio State University asked 300 of its students to fill out a questionnaire that included 124 different behaviors. Some students were hooked up to a phony lie detector, only they didn’t know it was phony.

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When subjects believed they had to tell the truth, men reported having fewer sex partners, and women reported having more. Researchers found it was only sex-related behavior that men and women lied about in order to conform to gender norms. Terri Fisher, researcher and psychology professor, reported:

"Sexuality seemed to be the one area where people felt some concern if they didn't meet the stereotypes of a typical man or a typical woman."

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Jun 1, 2013 9:57AM
If people don't already know that this is just common knowledge, then they haven't been socially interactive for at least 15 years. They need to climb out of the bomb shelter and get in check with reality. A man boasts because he doesn't want feel inferior to other men. It's an ego booster. Women don't tell the truth for fear of being called a whore, slut, easy lay, etc.... It's all about what is socially acceptable and just shows how society controls what we say about certain things.
May 31, 2013 8:50PM

I got bragging rights:

My wife likes for me to use my forearm because my pecker is too big.

May 31, 2013 4:32PM
I'd be interested to see what happens if the participants are asked by a member of the sex they're attracted to...
May 31, 2013 3:36PM
Is there anybody that didn't already assume this?
May 31, 2013 3:28PM
What information is "private" anymore?  Its nobody else's business as to how many or how often or anything else.  This is media BS fed by people without a sense of themselves.
May 31, 2013 3:28PM
Well it's easier for a woman to get laid then it is for a guy.

Just about any girl can walk up to a guy and put her hand on his junk, he might wince away, but he's not gonna call the cops on her.

Now if a guy did that to a lady, he'd be in jail, kicked in the jimmy.

Imagine that.
May 31, 2013 3:21PM
let me stir up the pot.  all women are whores.
May 31, 2013 3:03PM
This topic is always amusing because women don't lie they fail to volunteer information.

Women can look at a man, but a man cannot look at a woman without getting scolded by his lady. "You like that don't you?".with disdain in her voice of course.........Ha.ha..aha
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