Macho Men Threatened When Women Earn More
A new study shows why macho men often struggle in their relationships.
Gender roles are becoming increasingly marginalized, but that doesn't mean they've been tossed out for good.
Researchers from Fordham University in New York recently conducted a study which found that "macho" men feel threatened when their female partners make more money than they do. Bad news for macho guys, considering that just this week, a new survey found that the majority of women in the U.S. are the breadwinners of their households.
The Fordham University study included 47 men who had higher-earning female partners. Researchers Patrick Coughlin and Jay Wade assessed the men's feelings on masculinity, the quality of their relationships and "the importance of the disparity in income between them and their female partners," according to the press release.
According to the results, when the man had a traditional view of masculinity, he was more likely to report a low-quality relationship. And, you guessed it—he was also more likely to place an importance on the income disparity between himself and his partner.
"Our results demonstrate the importance of masculinity ideology in understanding how and why men with higher-earning partners will have low or high quality romantic relationships," Coughlin and Wade said in the press release. "The findings are relevant to men who are married as well as non-married men in a romantic relationship."
Sure, it's easy to write these guys off as closed-minded meat heads (especially when they're labeled "macho"), but there's another side to the coin. Surveys seem to show that women also tend to have traditional views of gender roles when it comes to money. For example, earlier this month, a survey conducted by an online dating site found that a whopping 75 percent of women are unlikely to date a guy who's unemployed.
"Not having a job will definitely make it harder for men to date someone they don't already know," said Irene LaCota, spokesperson for the site, It's Just Lunch.
But according to LaCota, the results have less to do with money and more to do with women's concern that the guy is "engaged in activity." Apparently, women view unemployed men as having a lack of drive and ambition. Fair enough, but here's the thing. Unemployment didn't have the same social stigma for women as it did for men. Two thirds of men in the survey said they had no problem dating a woman who's unemployed.
The point is, while these "macho" men could easily be written off for their insular views on gender roles, women often seem to have those same antiquated views.
As a good friend said to me recently, "most of the women I go out with make way more money than me, yet I'm still expected to pay for the date."
Even though I argued relentlessly with him about this, he has a point. Many of us want the traditional gender roles and the double standards to exist, but only if we get to pick and choose when. So can we really blame the machos for feeling threatened? The issue is simply not that simple.
The press release continues:
"The breadwinner role for men is still the accepted norm in marriage, and allows for and supports the husband's power and authority in the family. It is therefore reasonable for a man who earns less than his female partner to feel removed from this traditional gender role, and feel a void because he does not fulfill this role."
Men may have been bringing home the bacon for ages, but if the latest statistics are any indication, it looks like it's time to redefine our roles.
What do you think? Do you expect the man in the relationship to make more? Would you date a man who made substantially less than you?
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During my marriage of almost 18 years, I was the major breadwinner making over $130,000 as a sheriff detective working my 40 hour week with an additional 40 - 60 hours if overtime for the 2 week payperiod. My ex-wife worked a 40 hour week for a union grocery chain as a checker and then receiver which had some overtime.
In the end it was during the counciling sessions that the words came out,,,"You work all the time and have no time for your family....hmmmm lets see the big house, your days out with your girlfriends getting your nails done ect. ect.....well you know what ...I came into this world alone and I EXPECT to leave it alone..thank you very much!
During the divorce she was able to reduce her reported hours to the minimum required to maintain her health benefits and insure I pay a higher amount of support. She even told the kids they could decide where they wanted to live further undermining my parental authority....the family law court doesnt give a rats **** what the woman does to hurt the father.
So in my opinion woman can earn their **** off as long as they pay their fair share of support in the end.
As for my current girlfriend of 8 years I can tell you not much has changed it's all what have you done for me today....I guess I'm just a bad love maker, and should have paid more attention in sex ed class.
Although I was raised partially during the transition from this, anybody remember when women were at least said to go to college to earn their so-called "Mrs" (pronounced "em-are-ess" [M.R.S.]) degree?
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