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Shacking Up No Longer a Major Divorce Predictor

Yet another reason to live in sin.

By Kristin Wong Mar 22, 2012 4:49PM

Photo: Jordan Siemens/The Image Bank/Getty ImagesA new government study finds that men and women who live together before marriage no longer run a higher risk of divorcing like they did in years past.

Oh, but I should mention….being engaged helps.

"[Living together before marriage] is not playing as big a role in predicting divorce as it used to," said Casey Copen, the lead author of the study.

But the study, which surveyed 22,000 men and women, found that the divorce rate is higher if the shacking up couple isn’t engaged. So if you’re living together and marriage isn’t in the works, but you do eventually end up getting married, that marriage is more likely to end. How much more likely? About 7 percent.

If a couple is living together without an engagement, the chance of the marriage lasting more than 15 years is 53 percent. For an engaged couple living together, that number is 60 percent.

To explain the trend, Copen said the non-engaged couples might not take commitment seriously or have family histories that made them pessimistic about marriage.

So commitment seems to be the key word here.
Hillary Mickell first moved in with her husband when they were both students at Boston University. They now live in San Francisco.

"I sort of knew he would be part of my life long-term,” Hilary says of moving in with her husband before they were married. “I wasn't thinking, `He's moving in with me, is he ever going to marry me?'"

So it looks like living in sin won’t hurt your marriage…as long as you do plan on getting married.

Other interesting statistics from the study:

* Men and women with Bachelor’s degrees are more likely to stay married for at least 20 years. However, they also delay marriage.

* Asian women are more likely than other races to have a first marriage lasting longer than 20 years.

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Mar 24, 2012 9:09PM
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The headline on the MSN page is "Another reason to live in sin."

Seriously? If there is strong, interesting, newsworthy data in the article, share it. But mocking the idea of purity or morality doesn't need to be part of it.

The quality of journalism is just so poor these days.




Mar 27, 2012 3:16PM
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bkhb iuh.... Why don't you go sell Avon or something instead of trying to plug your dating service that sounds like some kind of call girl service that none of us give a monkeys red butt about.
Mar 25, 2012 2:25AM
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I think that whatever two people decide to do far as, to get married, not to get married, just live together, etc.; is their business and no-one else's, not the government, not the religious fanatics, NO ONE...and that's it.
Mar 24, 2012 10:18AM
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it always amazes me that the right talks about how there is a sanctity in marriage...and yet have been divorced once or twice... hummm...  Or the right makes pledges with their kids to not have sex.... and yet those same kids have the same rate of STDs as the populous.  

 

I believe in marriage... i believe in the sacrifice and responsibility that comes along with it(unlike Rush and Newt)...

 

 I also believe that people are free to make their own decision on whether they want to be married or not...

Mar 27, 2012 2:30PM
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Crying tree....

Don't you mean to say "Why buy the milk when you have a cow at home"?

Lets be serious.. If you are married you have to combine your earnings and if one spouse makes more money, then the other can not get on gov't support ie...free medical, food stamps, and your company insurance will eat you up if you have to add a spouse and kids. Getting married is a commitment and too many people are committed to the gov't to pay their bills for them.

Mar 27, 2012 9:09PM
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Living together is nothing but a longer courtship that gives longer time to manipulate,lie

and sell yourself for the marriage. Loving comes with years together with trials and tribulations. I was introduced to my husband a week before the wedding. We both were strangers to each other. We were married for 25 years till a heat attack took my husband.It was 23 years ago. I still love him and miss him.

Mar 24, 2012 3:03PM
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To the believers, shut up, keep it to yourself, no one wants to hear it. To the nonbelievers, shut up, keep it to yourself, no one wants to hear it. Seriously, what makes any of you think that you know it all and have everything just so figured out? You are just as lost in this world as the next person is. No one has it figured out. No one knows the truth. If we did, none of us would have anything to argue over. From an outsider looking in, you all look like a bunch of children bickering. Grow up, the world doesn't revolve around YOU and the world doesn't have to conform to your views.
Mar 24, 2012 1:18PM
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Why does anyone think that their opinion actually matters to anyone else but themselves.  An opinion is just that, and opinion, not a law - nothing to get all bent out of shape over.  Keep the peace people.
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