Shacking Up No Longer a Major Divorce Predictor
Yet another reason to live in sin.
A new government study finds that men and women who live together before marriage no longer run a higher risk of divorcing like they did in years past.
Oh, but I should mention….being engaged helps.
"[Living together before marriage] is not playing as big a role in predicting divorce as it used to," said Casey Copen, the lead author of the study.
But the study, which surveyed 22,000 men and women, found that the divorce rate is higher if the shacking up couple isn’t engaged. So if you’re living together and marriage isn’t in the works, but you do eventually end up getting married, that marriage is more likely to end. How much more likely? About 7 percent.
If a couple is living together without an engagement, the chance of the marriage lasting more than 15 years is 53 percent. For an engaged couple living together, that number is 60 percent.
To explain the trend, Copen said the non-engaged couples might not take commitment seriously or have family histories that made them pessimistic about marriage.
So commitment seems to be the key word here.
Hillary Mickell first moved in with her husband when they were both students at Boston University. They now live in San Francisco.
"I sort of knew he would be part of my life long-term,” Hilary says of moving in with her husband before they were married. “I wasn't thinking, `He's moving in with me, is he ever going to marry me?'"
So it looks like living in sin won’t hurt your marriage…as long as you do plan on getting married.
Other interesting statistics from the study:
* Men and women with Bachelor’s degrees are more likely to stay married for at least 20 years. However, they also delay marriage.
* Asian women are more likely than other races to have a first marriage lasting longer than 20 years.
Instead of focusing on marriage - the focus should be on two people who want to combine their lives together for a common purpose (usually kids); however, a piece of paper doesn't make anyone more likely to stay together. The key is to remain friends even when you can't stand to be by each other. Committ to each other and the rest will work itself out - with or without the beneti of marriage.
love is a choice. We get married because we love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together. Sickness and health, better or worse, richer or poorer. Til death do you part. It is not suppose to be all about you anyway. If each person could get past themselves and put their all into the marriage divorce would not be on the table. My spouse isn't always pleasant to be around but it doesn't stop me from loving them. We expect what the media shows us a marriage should be like and it just isn't reality.Most couples are selfish and spoiled, that's why it doesn't work out for them.
What I'd like to see is a study on how owning a computer with an Internet connection affects a couple's chances of staying together. That also includes Smart Phones.
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