Romance fades three and a half years into marriage
Wedded bliss has an expiration date, according to a recent study.
When is the honeymoon officially over? Three and a half years into marriage, a new study says.
Two thousand married adults were polled about their marriage and romance habits, and researchers found that couples generally start taking each other for granted three years and six months into their marriage.
More on MSN Living: Best Valentine's Day gifts on Pinterest
It might sound like a depressing statistic, but 75 percent of those surveyed said they felt this was "normal." In fact, only 43 percent of respondents considered taking a partner for granted to be a bad thing.
Co-operative Food commissioned the study, and spokesperson Kate Jones told The Heart Beat:
"Once the honeymoon period is over, couples often let bad habits take over and forget to go the extra mile to make each other happy. Although it's completely normal to relax in your partner's company, and many couples could see these things as a sign of intimacy, it's great to keep that spark alive at the same time. The relationship with your partner needs just as much TLC as those with your friends, family or colleagues."
More on MSN Living: 10 tips for a sexy and romantic Valentine's Day
At the three and a half year mark, couples adopt quite a few bad relationship habits—forgetting anniversaries, for example. Couples also begin to eat at different times and ditch conversation in favor of watching TV.
”Bad habits begin to creep into the relationship, such as breaking wind in front of each other, showering less, women forgetting to shave their legs, not closing the bathroom door when using the toilet and leaving the toilet seat up," Jones said.
Nine out of ten people in the study attributed their lackluster relationship behavior to being comfortable with their partner. So maybe the romance doesn't fade; maybe it just transforms—82 percent of couples say, despite getting too comfortable, they're happy with their marriage.
Based on their study, Co-operative Food put together a list of signs that you've gotten too comfortable in your marriage. Check it out and tell us if you're guilty.
Top 10 signs of being taken for granted:
- Opting to sleep rather than having sex.
- Lack of ‘date nights’.
- You forget to say “I love you” everyday.
- You stop kissing each other goodbye.
- Go to bed at different times.
- Don’t cuddle up on the sofa in the evening anymore.
- Dressing down in tracksuit bottoms before the other half gets home.
- No longer bothering with Valentine’s Day.
- Assuming you’ll do all the chores.
- Breaking wind when partner is around.
Readers: Would you like to be featured in an upcoming MSN Living slideshow? Email a photo of your engagement ring to firstname.lastname@example.org. Please include your name, city and state plus a little about your proposal. By submitting your photographs, you agree to the following.
Photo: Cavan Images/Getty Images
love: friendships, dating, sex & marriage
Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie finally took the plunge, but marriage isn't always a good choice for everyone.
Learn how these surprising tactics can really improve your relationship.
Use these tips to up your chances of finding love.
Find out how paired-off ladies might feel lacking—and how you can make your relationship satisfying.
These signals are seriously subtle, but they can give you real insight into what's going through your husband's mind.
Check which changes are necessary to stay happy together.
We know some of this may sound obvious, but these simple statements can make both of you happier.
Making your relationship more secure, connected, and intimate doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Try these expert tips and reap the rewards now—and in the long run.
For those times when nothing big and horrible happened--but nothing is feeling right either.
What's more fun than animals in weddings? We've rounded up eight of the cutest.
Your puppy is all over your Instagram, Facebook and fridge, so there's no reason not to include him in your engagement pictures too. The best engagement photos give viewers a peek into your life. If you’re a dog owner, take this opportunity to show off your pooch, like these 22 couples did! And we can't thank them enough.
Our married blogger gets real about checking out other guys when you're taken.