Rising number of divorces blamed on wives' drinking
Attorney says many breakups are caused by women's alcohol abuse.
Last year, we found out that married women are drinking more after marriage. Now, one expert says wives' boozing behavior is to blame for a rising number of divorces.
Family-law attorney Amanda McAlister told the Daily Mail that she sees 40 to 50 divorce cases each year in which excessive drinking is a contributing factor. In the majority of those cases, it's the woman who has the problem, she says.
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"Husbands will often initially cite a different reason for divorce, such as that their wife doesn’t work or help around the house," she said. "It only later comes to light that the reason she’s not doing so is because she’s often drunk or nursing a hangover."
She estimates that these types of divorces have increased about 70 percent in the past five years — a sobering statistic.
McAlister says sometimes these women drink at home as a way to cope with stress or depression. But many times, the drinking is more social and accompanied by a large network of friends and colleagues.
“Many of the men who come to me say their wives often don’t come home until 4 a.m.”
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Sadly, McAlister's claim may not be farfetched. A study from earlier this year found that heavy drinking and incompatible drinking increase the chance of divorce.
Researchers from the Norwegian Institute of Public Health studied data from nearly 20,000 married couples. They found that couples who consume the same amount of alcohol were less likely to divorce than couples who had mismatched drinking behavior. The kicker? The divorce risk was especially high if the woman was the one drinking heavily.
Fartein Ask Torvi, author of the study, offered a couple of explanations.
"A wife's heavy drinking probably also interferes more with general family life -- that is, the caring role of the mother, upbringing of children, etc. Perhaps the husband is more apt to the leave the spouse than is the wife when major problems occur."
I was married to an alcoholic wife for ten years, divorced her, because we had two children together and I traveled quite a bit, I was fearful for the children so allowed her to live with us. The hell and torment this disease inflicts on a family leaves everyone destroyed. I think its harder on the family than the drinker, they drink and pass out or go to the hospital to receive meds so they wont experience withdraw symptoms. Then listening to the blame and pointing of the finger how their life is so bad and your the reason she drinks. Finally the children grew up and moved away and then you look across the room at someone you cant stand to be left in the same room, no romance, visions of her while on a drunk, wetting herself sleeping all day and out all night. Then realize you have wasted good years for a selfish, self centered bitch and resent her, and she still blames your the bad guy. Go figure??
If you gotta do both, it might turn you into a whiskey-pukin' alkie.
my partner of 15 years could not stop drinking,
but then again, I knew her mother was an alcoholic,
but my lady, she was so against it that she cried in
the car the first time she was with me when I bought
a six pack... so things like that comforted me about
her, little did I know, that she would drink uncontrollably
for over 6 years and tie excuses for several sex flings
with strangers to it... amazing we made it as long as
we did. she only stopped drinking when she got
pregnant with the guy she ended up with after me,
but now the baby is 6 months old, and she is starting
to try the occassional evening wine again. as with
when she was with me, it started as a gradual, non
threatening buildup... I believe before summer of
2014 she will be face down in front of some nighclub
at 3am, or driven home at 4am by a strange guy she
swears she didn't have sex with. her denial is the
If you are depressed because you're fat: go exercise. Don't eat more, drink more anything moronically stupid like that to combat your depression over being too fat.
If you don't like being fat, exercise 30 minutes non-stop 4 times a week. And...try to eat when you're hungry, at least as much as possible, but not more often.
There, I just solved 50% of female depression cases. Winner = me.
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