Majority of men willing to look past an affair
Only 7% of men want a divorce after being cheated on, a recent poll finds.
There's a lot of heartbreak out there.
For many people, the pain of infidelity can last for years. A recent poll from the website Survive Her Affair found that 91 percent of men say their wife's cheating is the most difficult thing they've ever been though. Only 9 percent of respondents had experienced something worse, such as military duty or a severe hospitalization.
No doubt, cheating hurts.
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But that same poll also found that men are surprisingly forgiving when it comes to infidelity. Ninety-two percent of betrayed men said they either wanted to save their marriage or they were unsure.
The site polled more than 1,500 men who had been cheated on. Seventy-one percent of them said they still loved their wife. An additional 24 percent weren't sure how they felt after the affair, and only 4 percent of men said they no longer had feelings for their wife.
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It may not be the most scientific poll, but it's still a significant finding — most men are serious about saving their marriage. In 2012, dating site Ourtime.com conducted a similar survey. It found that, in general, only 42 percent of adults would be willing to work on a relationship after their partner had an affair. But for those in the Survive Her Affair poll, the situation isn't hypothetical; they've actually experienced the pain of having an unfaithful spouse.
Yet only 7.9 percent said they had absolutely no desire to save their marriage.
"The fact that men are willing to 'work through' infidelity in their marriage – despite the soul-crushing pain of the emotional trauma – is testament to the desperation many men feel," said Kevin Jackson, a relationship expert who conducted the survey.
"We as a society must overcome our taboo on discussing the prevalence of affairs if we are to address this problem directly – and save ourselves from this most basic and archetypal of human pains."
What do you think? Have you been cheated on? If so, did you work past it or were you ready to end the relationship?
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