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Does porn make you cheat?

Researchers say don’t let your habit get out of hand.

By Mens Health Magazine Mar 22, 2013 4:48PM

Watching porn may increase your urge to fool around, according to a new study in "Social, Psychological and Personality Science."

Researchers found that the more a guy looked at smut, the more likely he was to stray from his partner. That fits in line with previous research that shows men who cheat are more than three times as likely to watch porn regularly.

Photo: Does porn make you more likely to cheat? / Nicolas Hansen/Getty ImagesWhat’s the kink link? Porn offers men access to no-strings-attached sex, often with multiple highly attractive partners, said study co-author A. Marlea Gwinn, of the University of Central Florida. And even though you recognize it’s all make-believe, those erotic images reinforce the idea that there are many willing and attractive alternatives to your current squeeze, Gwinn said.

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Dirty images also focus your mind on reproduction, and your instinct to reproduce values multiple sex partners over a loving, steady relationship, Gwinn adds.

Now, the science on porn is controversial and ever-evolving. (Check out our 2012 report, “Is Porn Harmful?” for the breakdown.)

But if you feel as though you’re spending more time on PornHub than usual, it’s time to cut back, said Rob Weiss, a certified sex addiction therapist and the director of sex and intimacy disorder services for Elements Behavioral Health.

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First, set a goal. Try to go two weeks without porn, Weiss recommends. Before you start, write down three reasons why you want to scale back, and tape these where you’ll see them often — like the back of your phone or by your computer.

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After the two weeks are up, set specific targets for your habit, whether that’s once a week or once a month, Weiss says. If you find yourself struggling to stay with it, he recommends computer tracking software from companies like Spytech ($70, spytech-web.com), which can block certain sites or even notify one of your buddies if you break down.

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Photo: Does porn make you more likely to cheat? / Nicolas Hansen/Getty Images

 

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Mar 23, 2013 8:54PM
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The only reason a person cheats is that they put their personal needs above their partners happiness. Bottom line. As an avid porn watcher I have been married for over 22 years and have never slept with another woman. I know that if I did it would end my marriage and break my wife's   heart. That is the reason I don't cheat. I do think sex is physical not emotional, but the trust and love shared with your partner is. The guys that cheat are probably the same ones that think the strippers actually want them.
Mar 23, 2013 9:04PM
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Bologna.  I've been with the same woman for 15 years.  I watch porn because she's disabled, and so sex is infrequent at best.  I don't stray because I'm not interested in any other human being as a companion and partner other than her.  Relationships are more than just knocking the naughty bits together.

 

Assuming that they are not is part of the PROBLEM.

 

I rate this study: Gassy butt.  3<

 

Mar 23, 2013 9:14PM
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The reason men cheat is because their wife or partner stops giving them the attention and affection they need.  IT IS THAT SIMPLE.  This study is total BS.
Mar 23, 2013 9:14PM
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Really? Then what was my dad's excuse? He didn't even read Playboy in the day. He got all of his out in real life and sure did a lot of it. I've never EVER cheated even when presented the opportunity and I have never been shy of porn. Nor has my wife had any issue with it.

 

Studies? They show what the studiers want it to show.

Mar 23, 2013 8:47PM
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Do forks make you fat? I ask that quest in response because the question "does porn make you cheat?" is about as stupid. If someone is going to cheat on their spouse, they're going to do it. Is it any one things fault? No, not really. It's usually a combination of things, disatisfaction with the status quo of their current relationship, built up stress and frustration from everyday life, loss of interest in current spouse; or hell maybe he just got drunk and slept with the hot bartender behind the counter. . . Point being you can't blame it on any one thing. However you can get even, put a bilboard up on a busy intersection publicly humiliating him for his indescretion, sell all of his **** off while hes off with his mistress, slash the tires and remove the distributor cap on his car while hes sleeping and blame it on some thug. Last but not least, leave his cheating **** for someone who actually values your company.
Mar 23, 2013 8:45PM
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Look, we don't need expensive studies to figure out that men are wired to procreate, and they prefer to spread it around to multiple partners in order get the best and most offspring.  Now, I'm dedicated to my partner, and if there is any porn-watching, we do it together.  But that is a choice that is in direct conflict with our genetic purpose, and has been instilled in us by society.  I'd say that people who are inclined to cheat are wired to do so anyway, and don't care for social limits in that regard; the porn is just something they view because they have the tendency to enjoy it anyway.  No more study needed.  Give me all of that wasted money. ;) 
Mar 23, 2013 8:42PM
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Watching porn doesn't make you cheat!  Performing in porn is different!
Mar 23, 2013 10:06PM
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This doesn't seem logical. When you watch porn, you usually masturbate.

When you're finished masturbating, you're no longer in the mood for sex.

When you're not in the mood for sex, you're less likely to bang some random chick from the gym. 


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