Leaders are better at relationships, study finds
Is there a link between your job title and your love life?
According to a recent study from the University of California at Berkeley, powerful people have a few advantages when it comes to dating and relationships.
More on MSN Living: Kissing dos and don'ts
For most of us, making the first move is downright nerve-racking. When it comes to approaching someone for a date, the possibility of rejection is enough to hold back even the most charismatic among us. But for those in positions of power, rejection is less of a risk.
Lead researcher Maya Kuehn conducted a series of experiments to test the impact of rejection on people in both high and low level workplace positions. In one experiment, subjects were told they weren't invited to a happy hour gathering, for example. Kuehn reported her findings:
"When rejected instead of accepted, subordinates reported lower self-esteem and greater negative emotion, but supervisors did not show an adverse reaction to rejection."
More on MSN Living: 50 wedding cost-cutting tips from real brides
Theoretically, if you have subordinates, you probably have more game. Or you at least find the game less daunting.
In another experiment, Kuehn brought couples into a lab and videotaped them discussing problem solving tasks. Beforehand, she asked the couples to rate each other according to who had the most power in real-life relationships. Kuehn found that powerful people were more willing to work through problems with their partner. Meanwhile, the submissive partners were more negative about the conflict; they were less willing to find a solution with their significant other. The study seems to imply that powerful people are more willing to stick it out in tough times.
While many of us find it difficult to connect with someone special, that connection might be easier for natural leaders, too. Kuehn found that the subjects in high-level positions were more willing to seek out opportunities to bond with others.
Jack Zenger, an author who specializes in leadership development, said:
"The most important competency of inspiring leaders is their ability to make an emotional connection with those they lead."
Overall, leaders are driven by interpersonal relationships. So perhaps it's only natural that they should jump over these romantic hurdles with ease.
What do you think—are you a powerful person? If so, do you find it easier to maintain your love life, or are you just as afraid of conflict and rejection?
Bing: It's divorce season?!
Photo: Patrick Lane/Getty Images
love: friendships, dating, sex & marriage
Forgotten what love is all about? Read this note, and remember.
And a few that aren't so shocking.
If you find yourself doing any of these things, consider changing your behavior or counseling.
From pineapple sculptures made out of sunflowers to bold graphic printed tablecloths, ten trendsetters in the wedding industry shared 100 days’ worth of inspiring new wedding details. See The Knot editors’ top picks for the coolest and most awe-worthy ideas from the wedding experts.
Those Facebook friends who seem to have perfect lives with flawless mates whom they adore at all times? Even they face tough times like these.
How to flag her little fibs. By Laura Tedesco
A new study on attraction may help explain why fashions change.
As a general rule, any island that offers great weather year-round is going to attract the most visitors in the winter (high season) when we’re all trying to escape the snow. Once summer rolls around, many islands see a sharp drop-off in tourism since many people have beach weather right in their own backyards.
And how you can attack the issues together.
A wedding is an exceptionally special day. Sometimes, an opportune photo flub makes the occasion even more memorable. Here are 25 awesome wedding photo bombs.
Somewhere between the first few butterfly-inducing dates and the committed-for-life stage, there’s the period of wondering if you’re both on the same page about how serious you feel about a future together. If you’re not quite at the point of "that talk" but you’re looking for a few clues you’re heading in that direction, here are some signs he’s in it for the long haul as your relationship progresses.
What’s that sound? It’s white noise blocking out the well-meaning person proclaiming groundbreaking news about where you can meet someone, asking why you’re still single, or bugging you about when you’re getting married already. Don’t be that person. Here are 15 annoying things all single people don’t want to hear.