Bride plans wedding 10 years before meeting her groom
Say what you will about the bride, but there's one thing you can't call her—a procrastinator.
When Shawn Owens proposed to his girlfriend Kate, she accepted. And then she whipped out a binder that included every detail of the couple's wedding, down to the menus. The binder was aptly labeled, "Life." Years before Kate even met Shawn, this wedding had been painstakingly planned.
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"I think some people probably thought I was nuts," Owens told ABC News.
Kate even went so far as to book a band back in 2003. She saw them playing at a bar and thought they would be perfect for her sometime-in-the-future ceremony.
"I booked my band nine years in advance. I said, ''I don't have a groom, but if you guys are still around, will you play my wedding?'"
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For nearly a decade, Kate had been perfecting her big day. She hired a wedding planner, picked out the dresses and even knew what hairstyles she wanted for her wedding party.
"I knew the style of wedding dress I wanted. I knew what style bridesmaids' dress I wanted. I knew the color scheme. I knew I wanted it to be outdoors."
When she met Shawn, she didn't him about these plans--understandable. So when he proposed, and Kate revealed her secret, Shawn says he was "a little surprised." But eventually, he learned to appreciate Kate's…er…initiative.
"The fact that she had so much planning done ahead of time, I realized how low-stress this process was going to be."
Is Kate's behavior odd, or is she just highly-organized? Is it okay to plan the wedding without the groom? The Heart Beat talked to Kristin Banta, who owns an event-planning firm in Los Angeles.
"These are two people coming together for a union. They should be united in their planning and be on the same page. It should not be all about the bride," Banta told us. "This is their first opportunity to present something reflective of them as a married couple. And I'm not sure why or how this idea of it being solely 'her day' has come about."
To be fair, Shawn did have some input when the couple married last June:
"He picked out the tux that he wore," Kate said. "He picked out the suit and everything that the guys wore. I just gave him a color scheme to work with."
Shawn revealed that he and Kate are now working on starting a family. We bet the colleges are all picked out.
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Being organized is an asset. Unlike the bridezilla's who put everything off until the last minute and then abuse and scream at those around them.
Good for this bride, that she had the foresight and ambition to look ahead and divert all the wedding drama and last minute craziness while still having her groom be involved in the process.
I agree with Shawn. That had to be one of the lowest stress weddings EVER.
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