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More couples get married without God

Is the chapel of love the same without religion?

By Kristin Wong May 28, 2013 4:10PM

USA Today brought up an interesting topic this week, discussing the increasing number of newlyweds who are tying the knot sans religion.

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Twenty-percent of Americans don't have a religious affiliation, the site reports, and that number is rising. As a result, humanist organizations such as the Center for Inquiry are offering programs to ordain non-religious ministers.

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With these secular weddings, all of the other traditions are in place; the only thing that differs from a traditional wedding is the mention of God's blessing. For the non-religious, this can be an important omission. As one atheist told the news outlet:

"When I got married, I was worried. I didn't want any religious references in my wedding because I didn't want to start out the most important relationship of my life with a lie."

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Sep 30, 2013 6:36PM
I am a Christian. But I also recognize that not all people are believers. And not all believe in the same God as I do. It has always been that way, and will always be that way. It is what makes the world so diverse. The human race really has one common goal and that is to stop all the hatred.
Sep 27, 2013 3:23PM

@Chris C


Get off YOUR high horse. I said nothing about atheism. My comment was solely directed at society's general lack of commitment, continued misogyny, and total lack of value for people as a complete human being.


We live in a society of casual sexual encounters, where 80% of couples admit they would cheat if they can get away with it, and half do cheat. Cancer rates have skyrocketed due to HPV. People stay in unhappy relationships while trolling the internet for other options while deluding themselves into thinking they are happy.


Whether you follow God, or your own principles, is your own business. My point is that society as a whole needs to learn what REAL love and commitment really is.


As for atheist divorce rates: most atheists I know opted for civil unions, no marriage at all, or polyamory .

Sep 24, 2013 4:54AM

This is just depressing on so many levels. God created marriage for a reason.

Women, when men use you for sex, ask yourself why they would commit to you if they can get what they want for free?

Men, the next time your ego makes you believe you are a stud, know that the girl flirting with you is also hitting on at least five other guys while sleeping with her boyfriend.

This is what becomes of society that doesn't have any values. I feel so sorry for kids today given how people behave. There will be no such thing as love anymore. People are people, not objects, respect them.

Sep 24, 2013 1:13AM
God is the AUTHOR of Marriage , how foolish to think that you don't need God in your life or your marriage or in your family. In Genesis 2:26-27 & 2:21-25  Holy Bible KJV. Maybe you gave up on God when you were younger : someone made fun of you or called you bad names or abused you real bad or you were rejected or you lost someone ; but that is not God's doing , that was the devil's doing. Read John 10:10
Sep 23, 2013 8:15PM
I, for one, am not fighting against anyone's idea of God that does not invoke a superior, holier than thou approach to life.  Sadly, this has happened to so many religious people that it becomes difficult to sort out believers in true values vs. those who act better than in the name of a God.  Either way, though, I am fighting for the separation of religious doctrines in the affairs of government and our personal lives.  Keep religion in your personal lives, in your families, churches, synagogues, and mosques.  Stop trying to mandate that non believers go along with placement of religion in personal health decisions, marriage, education, and government policy.  
Sep 18, 2013 5:46PM
It's not a marriage without GOD. It's a commitment ceremony.I'm fine with it, but really people....call it what it is!
Sep 18, 2013 4:59PM
Personally I does not bother me that people want to get married without religion put into the mix. Some marriages that are centered around religion still fall apart so not having religion does not change the chances that the marriage will fall apart. I myself do not have a religious affiliation because I am and never really was a religious person. I live my life the best way I can and so far it has been pretty good. No one knows what is beyond life and personally I really do not want to know. As long as I treat humans the way I want to be treated, it should be fine.
Sep 18, 2013 3:59PM
Marriage works if love is at the center of the union.  If some care to call that love "god", so be it.  I cannot understand why some atheists or non-believers get angry at believers.  Do you get angry when your children finally stop believing in Santa, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy?  Of course not,  You just realize they are becoming more intelligent deep-thinking beings.  Perhaps someday, the god-believers will not be afraid to read, think, investigate, and then - they can join the Humanist movement, people who are not afraid to claim responsibility for;  and who work towards -a better world without the hate, fear, superstitions, and fatalism wrought by belief in gods instead of belief in people.
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