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Which States Have the Lowest Divorce Rates?

Good news for East Coasters

By Kristin Wong Oct 15, 2012 2:57PM

No married person will tell you that keeping the knot tied is easy, but hard work notwithstanding, one key to a lasting union might just be geographic location.

According to new data released by the U.S. Census Bureau, your marriage might have a better chance of enduring if you reside somewhere in the northeastern part of the country.

Photo; Vstock LLC/Getty ImagesThe Bureau released the 2011 American Community Survey just last month, and in it, New Jersey was revealed as the state with the lowest percentage of residents 18 and older who are divorced, the New York Times reports. New York came in at a close second.

In New Jersey, just 9.1 percent of adults are divorced, compared with almost 52 percent of its residents 18 and older who are married. Susan L. Brown, co-director of the National Center for Family and Marriage Research, told the Times:

“The composition of New Jersey married individuals is quite favorable across several indicators, providing some evidence for the low divorce rate."

Naomi Cahn, a professor at George Washington University Law School, further explained the data:

"Marriages are more likely to last for longer periods of time when people marry at an older age, have a higher education and earn more, and New Jersey scores high on these three criteria. New Jerseyans are more likely than residents of most states to delay marriage until after they complete college and graduate school. There are fewer divorces in New Jersey because there are fewer risk factors.”

Basically, New Jersey residents are likely to postpone marriage until they're "emotionally and financially ready," as Deborah Carr, a sociology professor at Rutgers, puts it.

The same must be true for residents of New York, Connecticut, Delaware and Massachusetts, as those states all ranked low in percentages of divorced adults. In fact, from New York down to South Carolina, the East Coast in general had a rate of less than 12 percent. Minnesota, Wisconsin, Iowa and Illinois also saw low percentages.

And Nevada may be the state of the quickie wedding, but when it comes to lasting marriages, couples don't fare so well. Nevada had the highest percentage of divorce, at 14.7. Wyoming, Florida, Kentucky and Tennessee were all over 13.5 percent.

The state of the economy has also played a key role in U.S. divorce rates. Mel Schwartz, a psychotherapist who has studied and written on the topic of divorce, told The Heart Beat:

"Divorce is far less a stigma than it used to be. However, the current economic conditions may force many people to remain unhappily married due to financial constraints."

And that would explain why divorce is less common in New Jersey than the rest of the country. As Carr told the Times:

"New Jersey is among the wealthier states in the nation, and economic stability also contributes to marital stability.”

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Oct 15, 2012 8:57PM
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Got married at 19, on my husband's 21st birthday, high school education and non graduate.  Married in Boston, moved to Kansas, and stayed married until death parted us in March.  We did very well with our lives.  Were married for almost 55 years.
Oct 15, 2012 8:45PM
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I was married to my husband 45 years until he was taken from me by cancer. We had our ups and downs but my favorite memories of all those years are the small things, like him holding my hand anytime we walked into someplace and he always opened a door for me. We NEVER went to bed without a kiss goodnight and we always took time to tell each other we loved each other. We had bigger memories but none of those squeeze my heart like the little daily ones. I think love and respect for each other are the key to a long and happy marriage.
Oct 15, 2012 7:13PM
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Where you live has nothing to do with divorce, but if you wait to get married does. Couples get married to early and to quickly today is why divorce rates are up. The secret to a lasting strong marriage has nothing to do with money, where you live, or your education.

I been married now for well over 20 years. I stopped counting the years now and I count the decades. I don't forget the anniversary every year even though I count by decades and I never forget to tell my wife I love her still. I also expect we are different in some ways, and alike in other ways, but I always respect the differences between us.

The secret to a long lasting marriage isn't difficult, but quite easy if you wait, respect the differences between each other, and make sure you love the other in your marriage and tell them that as often as possible.

Oct 15, 2012 7:53PM
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My wife and I have been married for forty-one years and she's still my best friend
Oct 15, 2012 7:09PM
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I don't even know why we are a state.......we're never mentioned......just skippy do right over us every time-RHODE ISLAND...........I mean we are between MA and CT. Watch come winter.....Massachusetts got hit with a Blizzard, Conneticut got hit with a Blizzard.....never a mention of our little state.......feel excluded.

Now how about a hey to Rhode Islanders!!!

We are known for the friendliest state.........xo

Oct 15, 2012 6:47PM
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New Jersey is lowest because they all move out before they get divorced.
Oct 15, 2012 10:26PM
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It's because the Northeastern states are so expensive to live in (I live in one), that couples just decide to live together as roommates in misery because they simply can't afford to move out separately and get their own places and live free lives.
Oct 15, 2012 7:55PM
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The key to a happy marriage is to marry the person you WANT to marry, not the person you think you're supposed to marry, 
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