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Study: Confidence before marriage leads to a happy union

Don't just walk down the aisle—strut!

By Kristin Wong Nov 8, 2012 4:24PM

We recently found out that having cold feet before marriage leads to divorce. Similarly, new research shows that pre-marriage confidence could be the key to a better union down the road.

If you're sure about your walk down the aisle before you actually walk down the aisle, chances are, you'll be more invested in your marriage a few years later. This is according to researchers from the University of Alberta, who studied the relationship behavior of 610 newlywed couples over a four-year period.

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In a press release, researcher Matt Johnson confirmed:

"Those who are more confident in getting married are willing to invest in their relationships."

Of the confident couples, Johnson found that, three years later, they were spending more time together than the couples who had doubts before their wedding. Perhaps confidence also builds up immunity to the dreaded three-year itch.

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Speaking of splitting, what was the fate of those couples with cold feet? In line with the University of California study, which found that pre-wedding jitters lead to divorce, Johnson found that couples with doubts going into a marriage were less happy after 18 months.

For couples positive about their vows, this study may only serve to echo their confidence. Perhaps the real lesson here is for those doubtful of their marital duties. It's easy to brush off cold feet, but if recent research is any indication, that's not the way to go.

Johnson adds:

“It is tempting to push those concerns down and just go with the flow, but couples need to remember, the doubts you are having are there for a reason and dealing with them will be beneficial.”

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