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Poll: Women don't marry the best sex of their lives

Your wife might have some explaining to do.

By Kristin Wong Nov 26, 2012 5:57PM

Bad news, husbands. Although you may consider yourself to be your wife's most exciting sex partner, chances are the honor actually lies with one of her ex-lovers.

A recent study from iVillage found that less than half of married women describe their husband as their best sex ever. Fifty-two percent of those surveyed said an ex was better in bed than their current spouse. Sound dismal? That's not the worst of it.

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The website surveyed 2,000 married women with a 60/40 split of those with and without children.

If the lackluster sex isn't bad enough, the poll found that 66 percent of married women would rather read a book, watch a movie or take a nap than have sex with a spouse.

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Some might describe their sex lives as stale, but according to the survey, married women are quite content with this boring bedroom behavior.

"The iVillage study shows that not all housewives are desperate – surprisingly they are quite content and fulfilled with their predictable sex lives," said editor Liz Zack in a press release. "Perhaps that's because sex is not a priority when it comes to personal time. Today's married women lead such busy lives that they consider rest and relaxation a better self indulgence."

The New York Post recently cited the study in a story titled, "Nobody marries their best sex ever." Sex therapist Sari Cooper told the Post that she talks to many women who are concerned that their husbands don't match up to sexual escapades of the past. But Cooper explains:

“Your best sexual relationship has likely been with the person who was most unstable and most volatile, but was very passionate. That’s like riding a roller coaster. That’s passion. But if you have a family, riding a roller coaster isn’t that great for kids.”

Photo: Christoph Wilhelm/Getty Images

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