7 tips guaranteed to improve your dating life
Guaranteed tips for better dating
By Paul Carrick Brunson, the Modern Day Match Maker
What's most interesting is that in nearly every interview I do, the questioning pattern is the same -- literally, I get the same questions. And, they typically end with the following: "What one bit of dating advice would you like to share?" I actually HATE this question because dating advice is like having rice-n-peas... it shouldn't come alone. Rice-n-peas requires jerk chicken, plantains, and coco bread... otherwise, as my grandmother would say, "It's simply not proper, mon."
Today I'm going to go beyond that one question and give you my 7 top dating tips. They can be done individually, however, for the most bang for your buck, incorporate them simultaneously and I guarantee your dating life will improve. I know that used in this context the word "guarantee" sounds used car salesman-like, but there is no better word to describe it -- if you follow these 7 tips, I GUARANTEE your dating life will improve.
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Tip #1: Hold up a mirror and point your finger
The hardest thing to do is self-assess and accept responsibility. I can see Bill Clinton still believing 'he didn't have sexual relations with that woman," but the fact is, he did. And for many of us, we don't know how to face the hard facts — we're picky (not selective), we're overweight (not curvy), our style is outdated (not vintage), etc. The sooner we admit our flaws, the easier it is to accept or improve them. Self-awareness is always the first step to self-development.
Tip #2: Identify a love mentor
This is a person who can objectively give you relationship advice. Securing a Love Mentor can be the single most impactful step you make in your romantic life, if done correctly! Doing this correctly means selecting the right person. Love mentors can be the same or opposite sex from you. The keys are that they a) share your values. b) can speak to you objectively. c) know what a healthy relationship is (through experience not just watching the Obamas on TV).
Tip #3: Surround yourself with new people
As we get older, our social circles typically shrink. With friends still being a top source for meeting the partners we eventually marry, a shrinking pool of people doesn't help. That said, it is important to accept that invitation to your co-worker's dinner party that you had intended to blow off, or take the plunge and join the art appreciation group at the museum. The best thing you can do for your dating life is to create new opportunities … and opportunities come through people.
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Tip #4: Drop 10% of your friends
This is something I learned years ago … and apologies to my old friends reading this that I no longer talk to. Yes, that's right, I intentionally drop 10 percent of my friends EVERY year. This is not to be confused with the naturally occurring attrition that comes with time and distance. I'm talking about taking account of your current social circles and evaluating those with negative intent. Life is hard enough just keeping up, and the last thing we need is a negative force bringing us down and imposing doubt. While we all evolve, not all of us evolve in a positive direction.
Tip #5: If they aren't marriage material, they aren't sex material
Tip #6: Expect for love to come in unexpected packages
Tip #7: Create a plan and follow it
Paul Carrick Brunson
There you have it... my 7 top dating tips. Try these for 30 days and keep me posted on the results! If you have specific questions about any of these tips, please reach out to me via facebook.com/PaulBrunson or twitter @PaulCBrunson