Tips on giving the best Valentine's Day gift everFigure out your partners Valentine's Day love language and take it from there.
Whether you are just starting to date someone special, in a committed relationship or have already walked down the aisle, Valentine's Day can seem a bit daunting. The amount of hype around making this single day perfect is enough to make even the most romantic of us a bit skittish. As the founder of Joy of Romance, Inc., I'm here to guide you to a happy ending, in six easy steps, when it comes to choosing the most perfect gift for your Valentine.
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1) Don't Procrastinate
First step, don't wait till the last minute. To do this right it will take a little creativity. Usually the more thought you give to creating or choosing the gift, the better the outcome. However, there are some creative geniuses out there who may be able to pull off some romantic miracles with little or no time; especially if they take the following five steps to heart. For the rest of us, it's best to start thinking about it and begin doing some investigative work at least a week or two in advance.
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2) Start With Your Valentine's Love Language
If you aren't already familiar with Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages" –words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, quality time and gifts. (For your relationship’s sake, put this book on the top of your reading list.) For now, to take a good guess at what your partner's love language is, ask yourself two questions: one: what have I done that really makes my love happy? Two: what do they complain about either not receiving from me or from their past partners? These two questions will give you insight as to what their primary and potentially secondary love languages are. Now anchor your Valentine's gift around what matters most to them by incorporating their love language.
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For example, if their love language is "words of affirmation" make sure as part of your gift you write a really meaningful card that details why they are special to you. If "acts of service" makes them shine then incorporate "doing something" like making a meal or getting their car washed as a part of the gift. For "physical touch," make sure you are giving them lots of love via hugs, kisses, hand holding and some erotic touches to start or top off the night, or both. A love language you can incorporate into most any gift you will be giving this Valentine's Day is "quality time" as a majority of partners will enjoy having your undivided attention when you are together.
3) Be Creative And Original
Do, create or give your Valentine something they have never done or received before to ensure a memory to last a lifetime. This means forget the roses and chocolates, unless they are an accessory to a grander gift. Put your creative hat on and without being too specific, inquire with your love about their preferences to different ideas by asking good open-ended questions. Places to go to spur your creativity: local event calendars, concierges at your local hotels, online coupon companies like Groupon, Gilt or Goldstar, and fun online newsletters like UrbanDaddy will always offer inspiration. Think about their hobbies or something they have mentioned wanting to do; maybe it's flying, stunt car driving or cooking lessons.
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