Seven Sneaky Ways to Tell What a Guy Will Be Like in Bed
Is He Addicted to Texting?
It's encouraging to see a guy who's good with his hands, but not when they're always attached to his phone. A higher connection to his phone means less of a connection to you, says Berman. "There's an epidemic of soft addiction to our computing devices that absolutely gets in the way of intimacy." The more time he's texting, the less time he's communicating with you. "If he's always distracted with one toe in the cyber world, you're going to have less satisfying sex."
Is He Constantly Manscaping?
Hair gel, lotion, brush, eye cream … if he uses any of these more often than you do, you can bet your next manicure that his vanity will extend from the bathroom to the bedroom. "If he's always primping, he might be more self-absorbed sexually," says Berman. "He could be the type that's looking in the mirror instead of at you while having sex."
Does He Refuse to Share His Food?
Eating together can be a sensual experience, but if he's withholding his entree, he may hold back on pleasing you in other ways, too. "He won't be giving in the bedroom," says Berman. "He's far more interested in being on the receiving end." Also, if he deliberately orders something you won't eat (think steak with a vegetarian date), consider it a red flag and grab a doggy bag.
Is He a Penny Pincher?
If he barely leaves a 10 percent tip when you go to a restaurant, don't expect too much in the bedroom. "If he's stingy with money, he's stingy elsewhere, too," says Berman. Watch out, however, for reckless spenders who throw away cash or frequently gamble. "It's a sign of being irresponsible and someone who might have been sloppy with safe-sex precautions," she warns.
Does He Eat Only Macho Meals?
There's nothing wrong with a beer guy, but if he refuses to order a dish that's not labeled "meat," then odds are he won't attempt other things … like experimentation in the bedroom. According to Berman, "He's more narrow-minded about gender and may have deeper insecurities. He also might be more rigid about positions he's uncomfortable with." If experimenting with food outside his comfort zone — or letting you take charge — challenge his masculine side, expect his mentality to dominate both in and out of bed.
Does He Hate Public Displays of Affection?
Everyone cringes at the couple mauling each other in public, but what's the harm in a little hand-holding? For guys who can't outwardly show affection, expect bigger problems in the bedroom. Berman predicts, "He might be less in touch with his body and be less comfortable with connecting physically." His anti-PDA stance will definitely hurt the romance. "He won't be a very sensual, sensory kind of lover."
Is He His Own Boss?
Forget Wall Street bankers or high-profile execs. The key to adventures in the bedroom is being with an entrepreneur. "They're leaders rather than followers," says Berman. "Expect a risk-taker in bed." Also, any man who isn't afraid to try something new — whether it's launching a business, skydiving or taking a wine class — will bring his sense of experimentation to your romantic life.