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Modern Day Matchmaker: How to Determine If He's Marriage Material

If you’re single, here are 24 important questions to ask yourself when considering potential dates. If you’re in a relationship, these are great questions to discuss with your partner.
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Is He Marriage Material?

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I dedicate this piece to everyone struggling with how to define marriage material. You've heard me and other experts talk ad nauseam about the importance of finding a partner that you're attracted to, who matches your values and compliments your personality. However, in order for someone to be marriage material, you need more. After all, a successful relationship must be based on more than just love to survive.

If you're single, here are 24 important questions to ask yourself when considering potential dates. If you're in a relationship, these are great questions to discuss with your partner. You don't have to be in complete agreement on each of these answers but you do need to be able to compromise if there are differences - if you can successfully do that, I say you have someone who is marriage material.

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Sherry761
Jun 4, 2012 10:42PM
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What kind of characteristics does he possess - Is he patient and kind; does he show that he cares about you and your concerns? How does he treat his mother - does he treat her with respect? How is he with money - is he generous or stingy? Have you seen him in different situations; such as - happy, sad, angry, didn't get his own way?

Values, Morals, and Beliefs - do you both share the same values, morals, and beliefs? If not, this can be a source of turmoil for you both.

What about his past; does he have several exes and kids from those previous relationships? If he does, have you given thought to what this would mean to your relationship with him now and beyond. Are you prepared to deal with his baggage?

These are some of the issues to observe and assess before taking that plunge.

 

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Jul 5, 2012 12:49AM
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I's this list just for black people or something?

Why are all the pictures and comments about black people?

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Jul 27, 2012 1:17AM
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This is going back--and it won't win me many friends, not that that matters--but after this article, I can only quote Artie, from the old Norm Show: "Women want stuff?"
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Jul 24, 2012 8:16PM
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How much money a man or a woman earns does not determine the validaty, stability, or wellness of any relationship. Strip away the layers until you visualize the person standing before you with absolutely nothing, then decide what they have to offer in the way of love, communication, character, personality and companionship.
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Jul 24, 2012 7:56PM
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Considering that marriage is more of a spiritual connection as opposed to just a natural connection. The information was not taken seriously here. I know this is just a synopsis of an approach, but some people just love certain things about someone, but unconditonal Agape (Godly) love is quite enough and covers everything. Unfortunately, some people want the whole hog the world has to offer. What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul? The bible asks this question openly. Nice feet, curly hair, nice teeth, a beautiful physique, good DNA, etc. The list is foolish and redundant if you ask me. NO ONE HAS JOB SECURITY. You can only be secure in this life if you have a right relationship with God in Christ Jesus, as a born again believer that lives holy for God almighty. All the other stuff is meaningless.
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Jul 23, 2012 8:39PM
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This is really stupid! These magazines and there so called experts...suck! No wonder American women are so "F" ed up
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On another note, is the woman marriage material or not? The bible says, how can two walk together unless they agree?
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Statistics in America revealed that over 65% of African American women in the church or otherwise are unwed.
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happy wedding.I wanna hold my wedding near the sea.I know it's very wonderful and amazing.Notice my name,for bikers find love.I am also a single biker fan.
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It is important for women to find a good hunsband and stay together life long .What to see more ?Try  CourgarLoving.c0m .Be brave and find your own Romeo!
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