Men’s Secret Bedroom Fears

The fact that a lot of guys look at porn every once in a while is hardly a secret, but all that browsing can lead to a bruised ego. “Porn stars are often well-endowed, and it’s only natural to compare your goods with the ones you see on-screen,” says Lyle, 33. “Most guys can’t help but feel they are on the smaller side and not big enough when in bed with a girl.”

You’re not the only one concerned about bulges and soft spots. Nearly all the guys we talked to admitted to having some serious body insecurities. “I don’t have sculpted shoulders or a buff chest, and a lot of girls like that, so getting naked can be intimidating,” says Dan, 27.

Uh, no, not that way. “Some guys sweat more than others, and I do so excessively,” says Ben, 31. “I always worry that will turn her off.”

A lot of guys worry that an up-close look at their toes might gross you out. “Most guys don’t take care of their feet, and when you are in bed, they can look gnarly—or worse—smell bad,” says Steve, 31.

“There are very few guys who will admit this, but you always worry if you will fart while getting a blow job,” says Jake, 30.

Finishing too fast is a common concern, so guys will go to great lengths to prolong the action. “I will think of garbage, baseball—anything to prolong the moment,” says Michael, 24.

Despite what some guys say, for many of them, your pleasure is their primary concern. “Once she finishes, it’s like, thank God,” says David, 30.

“I’ll carry Listerine strips or rush into my bathroom for a quick brush,” says Harrison, 27.

“I don’t know how to dirty talk, and I know that if I copy what is said in a porn video, it’s hit or miss,” says Ben, 31. “Instead, I’ll just moan, but even then, I worry I am doing it too loud or wrong!”

You’ve heard the stories of  “jack rabbits”’ and “mop kissers,” and so have men. “You wonder if someone is saying you’re great but telling her friends something else,” says Gus, 30. “Every guy likes to think about himself as a great lover, but you never really know.”