Is Your Guy Moving In? 6 Ways to Boyfriend-Proof Your HomeIf you (like me) have been living alone for longer than the Spice Girls lasted, then living with a boyfriend for the first time is a BIG transition.
All of a sudden, it's time to make space in the closet and keep your beauty routine on the down-low. Working in Glamour's research department, I've had the opportunity to do a little research of my own (since MY boyfriend is moving in soon) on the six ways to boyfriend-proof your place (while still maintaing that last little bit of privacy/mystery/romance!) before the big move...and after, too.
1. Tuck away those not-so-sexy-but-totally-necessary things.
When we decided my guy would move into my one-bedroom apartment, all that came to mind was avoiding that "Oh, sh*t" moment where he finds all of those things that will seriously lower the survival rate of my sex appeal. I'm not advocating being hishonest, but it's best to keep some of those unmentionables in the deep, dark corners of ladyland -- at least until that whole "comfort zone" thing is really figured out. That means moving the Super Plus tampons and any other feminine products behind the makeup bag, nail polish remover and blowdryer in the bathroom cabinet. Same goes for the Nair, Monistat and, now that I think of it, maybe throw the Imodium way back there, too.
While we're at it, let's go ahead and stash the granny panties underneath cute boyshorts and flirty thongs. Sure your new roomie knows you get your period and really isn't going to be snooping through your drawers (I hope?), but there's nothing wrong with those things being out of sight, out of mind.
2. Um, hello, make room for your man!
I'll be frank: I barely have enough room for MY clothes, let alone my agent boyfriend's collection of suits, so I knew it was time to LET GO. Ladies, who's with me? Of course, hold on to the things you always wear, but say sayonara to that sweater from college (you know, the one you might wear sometime if something comes up). I made three piles: keep, toss and donate. I may have felt a tiny inkling of resentment as the giveaway bags of clothes and shoes piled up but, yes, he has stuff too, and donating to someone needy earns good karma points.
Oh, and since I was doing a little housekeeping to make room for my love, I figured clearing the DVR wouldn't hurt either. I mean, how many times am I going to re-watch My Girl? Okay, nevermind, Thomas J. is staying put.
3. End those hoarding habits once and for all.
There is absolutely no need to keep 27 packets of soy sauce, or stock up on enough plastic forks and spoons to keep the Gosselin family outfitted all year. There's one drawer in my kitchen that's so chock-full of extra ketchup packets, you'd think I had a weird obsession with condiments (I don't). It's time to surrender all those things we hold onto just in case. Oh, and I even emptied out an entire cabinet for my wannabe-chef boyfriend's pots, pans, and crockpot! Turns out having space is actually pretty awesome.
4. Say goodbye to the photos of your prom date...and all your exes for that matter.
Ms. Independent, you're embarking on an exciting new part of your life. You may have shared parts of yourself with others before, but this special dude makes you want to share it all. Repeat after me: Move forward and leave the past in the past. It's time to get rid of photos of your ex, even if he was only your date to the dance in 7th grade. Think of it like this: If picturing your boyfriend with a girl in the same scenario makes you queasy, toss it! If you wouldn't like it, odds are he won't either.
5. Stock the fridge.
Bye-bye CoolerCleanse, hello Bud Light. Alright, that doesn't mean emptying out the entire fridge but you should add things you know he likes. Diet Coke and steamed broccoli for me, Coca Cola and T-bones for him... or whatever does it for you and your guy. Start buying groceries and making meals together for a win-win. Soon enough you'll be cooking with him every Sunday and packing him leftovers for lunch Monday. Okay, let's not get carried away..it's 2011 and, well, I'm just not that domesticated. The point is: compromise!
6. Hey lady, keep it to yourself!
Remember that episode of Sex and the City where the ladies discuss the "secret single behaviors" that they'd never do while living with their guys? Charlotte would stare at her pores for hours, Carrie would read magazines while standing up and eating Saltines with jelly and Miranda would watch infomercials with Vaseline-covered hands. For me it's coming home from work, putting my hair up in a messy bun, putting on a clay mask, and watching a Jerseylicious marathon. But, taking a cue from SATC, it's obvious that some things are better when they're just for you. Why not schedule spa appointments for pedicures, facials and waxing? Leave the alien-looking masks for at least a month or two until you and the boy are settled -- or leave your secret single behavior for boys' night out.
Melissa Melms is a writer and currently works in the research department at Glamour. Follow her on Twitter @Melmsie.
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