Five Ways to Divide Housework With Your GuyYou and your guy are living together. Bliss, right? Until you have to figure out who's doing the laundry and who's doing the dishes. Here are some tips for dividing up chores without dividing your romance.
[Editor's note: Rosemary Brennan writes for the Glamour.com relationships blogSmitten. This is an excerpt from that blog.]
When you live with a roommate, splitting the household chores is fairly straightforward. Even if your roomie is something of a slob, you both know which areas you should be responsible for. However, when you're shacking up with your man, things get dicey. Since most of your space is shared, it's sometimes difficult to determine cleaning responsibilities…
If by some miracle, one of you adores cleaning and has shouldered the laundry list of household chores on your own, well then that's just fantastic. Or, if you two split everything fairly and have never once argued about cleaning, that's also just peachy. But, if you're like me and have quarreled more than you'd like to admit about the proper way to fold t-shirts, here are some easy peasy tips to help you and your man divide up the housework.
Communication is key when it comes to any relationship issue. If there's something you can't stand, like scrubbing toilets, discuss it with your guy. Perhaps you'll tackle the bathroom, but save the toilet for him, and you can pick up some kitchen chore he hates.
2. Take turns.
If there's some awful chore that you both despise equally, have one partner do it one week while the other takes it on the next.
3. Have realistic expectations.
Maybe you're a stickler for making beds. Perhaps he prefers all of the items in the pantry to be hyper organized. If you've got a very specific cleaning pet-peeve, share it with your partner but agree to tackle the task on your own. Just because one of you has folded socks the "right way" your entire life, doesn't necessarily mean the other is ready to be enlightened.
4. Divide and conquer.
Washing laundry or dishes can seem pretty overwhelming. But if you divide up the specific chore, say he washes the clothes and you fold them, the task becomes much more manageable.
5. Learn to live with some messes.
No matter how diligent you two are about cleaning, some spots in your home will invariably fall victim to clutter. Desks, bookshelves and closets are some of the most common culprits. Instead of stressing and arguing about these spaces, let them go. Tidy them up when you can but try not to let these magnets for messes cause too many arguments.
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