Five Rules Every Woman Should Follow When TextingTexting and romance go hand in hand in today's world. But you have to text smart! Here are five rules for engagement when it comes to texting and dating. UR welcome.
[Editor's note: John Ortved is the male half of the blogging duo behind Glamour.com's dating blog,Single-ish. This is an excerpt from that blog.]
Dating, women and texting. Oh my! I cannot tell you how many emails I get that can basically be summed up as "He never texted me back. What do I do?" Here's a great example:
I was late to pick up this guy I was seeing (because of traffic) and he informed me that he had been waiting for me for 30 minutes. He was pretty mad. We didn't really talk much on the way home [what follows is her recount of many barely returned, or unreturned texts she sent the guy over the following days and weeks]…I sent another text and he never said anything.
OK ladies, I've talked about texting protocol before, but I want to make this as clear as possible, so here are the five critical points to follow regarding texting:
- Stay in the driver's seat
- Remain a mystery
- Don't seem too eager
- Be busy
- Keep it short and sweet
There's a rule of two here. He sends you a text, you send him two texts. NO! Wrong! He sends a text, you send a text. That's it. Rule of two. And make it short. And sweet. And don't give him too many options. Whatever you think you have to say, you don't. Please trust me. I am both a writer and a guy who knows a little something or other about dating, writing more than he does is not to your benefit.
"But won't I sound like a robot?" you ask. Yes. A sexy, unavailable robot, who is far too busy with her awesome robot life to worry about silly boys texting her back.
Texting has given both men and women a whole new forum with which to infuriate each other — I'm in no way saying that you should be using your phone as a weapon, or the joystick in some game. But you should be using it; it, or he, shouldn't be using you.
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