couple bonding

Make Small Gestures

Why it works: Sometimes the best validation that someone lives you is to see proof that they are always thinking of you in tiny but touching ways. Planning a romantic night for two on the town takes thought and is always appreciated, but buying your husband a red velvet cupcake just because you happened to walk by a bakery, see it in the window, and knew he would love it shows he is your number one. It’s that for-no-real-reason feeling that makes it mean so much.
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Do a Chore She Always Does

Why it works: A division of labor makes the house hold run smoothly. But if you take on your mate’s chore once in a while, your actions will be completely appreciated. Dry the dishes, take out the trash, make the morning coffee, or clean out of the DVR queue. When you love someone, you pitch in even when you’re not asked. It’s the gift of time that costs nothing! You’re not trying to usurp duties- he might like shredding old papers- but giving him a break means he has one less item to worry about and more free time to spend with you, read a book, or just sit with his eyes closed on Saturday afternoon after a hard work week.

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Give Each Other Space

Why it works: You’ll be so much more excited to see each other. Even those couples that are joined at the hip sometimes require a little alone time – not to brood or escape – to refresh in a quiet, personal way. Perhaps you don’t understand the need for solo moments. That’s fine. But if your husband enjoys winding down from a long day with only himself and maybe the dog for company, or your wife likes to be alone with her thoughts on Sunday night, allow it to happen guilt free. You don’t need much distance to make the heart grow fonder, but it always does.

Write it Down

Why it works: Telling your mate how much she means to you is not always easy, and let’s face it, can be kind of sappy. But if you make it cute, it’s both sentimental and sweet. We’re not talking long love letters, but an “I love you” written on a dry erase board in the kitchen or a “have a great day” left on a post-it is all it takes to let you other half know you cared enough to take the time to write it down.

Say Yes

Why it works: Agreeing to try something you always veto or join her somewhere you always try to get out of, shows you are listening and putting her need first. We don’t like going to crowded movie theaters – sticky floors and noisy people put us on edge. So, a trip to the multiplex is always rejected. But every now and then we simply say, “Okay! Let’s catch a film!” Giving in just a little bit make his face beam. Is seeing Johnny Depp on the big screen really so much to ask?

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Why it works: This is not about you and that’s why it makes you feel so great –together. Working to make the world better, or just to put a smile on a kid’s face, gives you a bigger sense of purpose. When you join your purpose in doing a good deed, it just makes you love each other so much more. Volunteering down not have to take you far from home and there’s something to suit everyone. You can wrap gifts for the homeless, stuff envelops for a nonprofit, walk animals from the shelter, put on a play at a children’s hospital, deliver food to homebound elderly (or just play gin rummy with them,) or teach computer skills and shoot a basketball with special-needs kids.