28 ways to have a sexy February

According to the Journal of Research in Personality, people who are deeply in love stare at each other 30 to 40 percent more than other couples do, and are slower to look away during an interruption. So next time he locks eyes with you, or vice versa, treat it like a staring contest — the longer you can hold the gaze, the hotter it will be.

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Taoists believe that where your mind goes, your qi — the circulating life force in Chinese medicine — will follow, so make sure your energy and your vibe is pure. "The difference between having connected sex and unconnected sex has a lot to do with attitude and intention," says Jill Blakeway, author of Sex Again. Whether it's yoga, meditation, or jogging, do whatever helps you get your head in the right place before spending quality time with your partner.

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If you're feeling feisty, compose a sext. One fun game digital dating experts Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz suggest in their book, Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way into his Heart: Next time you're out with friends, text him that if he works a funny, sexual word into the conversation a certain number of times before you leave, you'll do that thing he loves later. Or, check out these other ideas.

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Buttering him up boosts his confidence, makes him feel great, and turns him on. "Words of affirmation from another can put couples in the mood," says Jennifer Jones, who works with couples in therapy at the University of Pennsylvania's School of Social Policy & Practice. "Men and women both want to be desired by their partners, and when you feel confident, that can translate into feeling sexy."

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Come up with a unique hashtag on Instagram to tag photos you post of special moments you shared together, suggests Baniuszewicz. "Before you know it, you'll have a whole photo album of your relationship." With pretty filters, too! #SoCute.

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Spontaneous, exciting…not sounding quite like your everyday life? Squeeze in a quickie, which adds variety and an element of surprise to your sex life, says Blakeway. "If you're not having sex because by the time you fall into bed at night, you're totally exhausted, then perhaps it's time to figure out if you can manage a lunchtime rendezvous now and then, or experiment with setting the alarm back a little for some morning action," she says, "Make whatever arrangements necessary for your kids to make sure your time is undisturbed." Consider it one more reason for bedroom door locks and firm, early bedtimes.

If you're feeling the need to lighten things up, you've got the right idea. "Research suggests that creativity serves an important role in attraction and relationship maintenance," says Glenn Geher, co-author of Mating Intelligence Unleashed. "Engaging in creative activities with your partner — like playing music together or playing a creative game like Pictionary — can help you enjoy him in a broader sense. Fostering creativity in romance is a core element of human mating intelligence." Let the games begin.

A sweet, unexpected gesture will get him thinking about you while he's at work, making him extra excited to see you later. "Drop a note in his briefcase that you have something special planned for that night, or text him to let him know you can't stop thinking about him," says Keryl Pesce, happiness expert and author of Happy Bitch. It's all about the anticipation.

"Synchronizing your breathing creates intimacy and connection," explains Blakeway. Try lying down facing each other, and start to breathe in sync. Breathe in as he breathes out, and vice versa, so it's like the same breath is circulating through both of you. By matching your inhalations and exhalations, you and your partner will also sync up your rhythms, strengthening your physical and emotional connection in that moment.

Everyone loves lip-on-lip action, but other body parts — ears, neck, chest, abs, thighs, calves, feet — are all fair game, too. Fun fact: The inner arm is super-sensitive — in Chinese medicine, it's said to arouse passions. It may sound quirky, but where there's sensitive skin and nerve endings, there's an opportunity for pleasure, so take it!