14 Dating Mistakes to Avoid

Things not to do
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You Wear Too Much Makeup

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Doing so implies to a man that you may lack self-confidence. Looking good isn't all about trying to achieve perfection. It isn't about caking your face with so much makeup that you look like someone else. No man wants to wake up in the morning to find your makeup all over the sheets. Think: More confidence, less makeup.

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You Check Your Phone Constantly

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This is disrespectful to the man you're on a date with. When your man is around, try to keep your smart phone addiction hidden. It makes you seem obsessive-compulsive when you're always peeking down at your phone or you leave it out on the table. It's annoying, and it makes him feel less important. Just throw it in your bag and enjoy yourself.

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You Talk Nonstop About Work

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There are more interesting things in life to discuss than how much it sucks to fill out reports every day. If all you can talk about is your job, that means you lead a very boring life and you won't be much fun to hang around with.

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You Don't Support Guy Time

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Doing this will instantly make you appear insecure and controlling. Whoa there, missy. You're messing with one of the sacred man rituals now. It's a necessity, not an option. Instead of ranting and raving about our guys' night, put that energy to positive use and go out with your girls.

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You Drink a Lot of Champagne

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This could mean you're too materialistic; too focused on status. The last thing men want is to be involved in a relationship where money and status is more important than anything else. What if we can't make a buck? What if we don't have the biggest house in our neighborhood? Will you want the guy in the huge house with a pool down the street? Your choice of beverage is painting this picture of our future life together.

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You're Clumsy or Awkward

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This says that our sexual compatibility is in question. When we're up, you're down. We try to connect because we're attracted to each other, but something just seems off. If we're not connecting on the dance floor, how are we going to connect in the bedroom? To increase flexibility and become more in touch with your body consider a dance or yoga class.

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You Want Another Tattoo

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This could tell him you're not done living your youth. Like it or not, your tattoo says more than you intended. He'll wonder if it was just a one-time things or if your wild side could return just as he's starting to like you?

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You're All About You (and Your Pet!)

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If you're guilty of this, it may tell a guy who wants to get serious that your timetable for having kids is at odds with his. This may seem innocent, but it can be overkill. How are we supposed to compete with that playful, furry, and loyal friend who probably came before us? We're not sure we're ready to take on the responsibility for this pet, especially because we know what's on your mind next -- a baby.

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You Don't Eat Leftovers

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This means you could be financially irresponsible. The truth is, your staunch refusal to eat leftovers goes far beyond being a little weird. Let's put it this way... you're throwing out food. So if you're throwing out a necessary component for survival -- where else are you choosing an "ideal" over a "this will do"?

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Your Party Photos Are All Over the Web

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If he sees your photos all over nightclub and party sites, he'll think you're a party girl and will be unable to settle down. It's cool that you go to clubs. But there's a difference between just going to clubs and being a club regular. It's a recipe for disaster if you're trying to hold down a relationship.

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