Remember to do the little things
Grand romantic gestures are great, and they can be a meaningful part of your relationship, but nothing can replace the little things you do to demonstrate your love. Measured by their importance to your partner, some of those little things may be bigger than they first appear:

  • Listen actively – Encourage your partner to share his feelings and tell stories about his life, and then ask questions that show you’re really interested and listening closely.
  • Give sincere compliments – If your partner loses a few pounds, changes her hair or does a great job on a project at work, make sure you notice and praise her for it.
  • Be nice – Don’t reserve all of your random acts of kindness for strangers. Look for opportunities to treat, pamper or delight your partner unexpectedly.

Love is a verb, on Valentine’s Day and every day. When two people are committed to each other, romance doesn’t have to wait for a special occasion.


Show how well you know your partner
Everyone likes a little romance now and then, but what we crave is emotional intimacy and being loved by someone who really knows us.

This Valentine’s Day, make your knowledge of your partner the centerpiece of your celebration—from planning the perfect dinner or making just the right romantic gesture to taking special care to please her in bed.

Understanding what makes your partner tick, and demonstrating that knowledge every day, is the surest path to an intimate and loving relationship.


Make emotional pledges for the long term
Valentine’s Day is a time to renew and celebrate your feelings for each other and to indulge in a little extra romance, but there’s no reason to limit yourself and your partner to just one day. Romance works best when it is firmly rooted in the trust and commitment of genuine love.

To make Valentine’s Day really special, use the occasion to offer emotional pledges to each other that will make your relationship stronger and richer every day—and for years to come.


Be a better you—for your partner
We all have a few things about ourselves we’d like to improve, so why wait? Your partner may love you in spite of your shortcomings, but there’s no reason to make that any more challenging than it has to be.

Some sage once said that having a good relationship is less about finding the right person and more about being the right person.

For Valentine’s Day this year, perform a self-diagnosis to assess your good and bad qualities and commit to making yourself a better person—if not for yourself, then for your partner.