6 Things You Won’t Learn About Your Man ‘Til You’re Married (or Living Together)You know your guy pretty well, otherwise you wouldn’t get engaged or married. But there are certain bits of his life that you just won’t see until you’re husband and wife (or move in together).
And they are…
If He’s Wasteful or Frugal at Home
Paul would leave on the lights in our apartment 24 hours a day if I didn’t shut them off. He’s my opposite when it comes to water and food too. I turn off the faucet when I’m not actively using it; he leaves it running while he brushes his teeth. With food, if I don’t finish what’s on my plate, I package it up and eat the leftovers the next day. Paul tosses what’s left. As often as I stayed over his dorm in college, I didn’t know all this until we were sharing a home.
If He Waits ‘Til You Finish Eating to Leave the Dinner Table or If He Expects You to Wait for Him
When you go out to dinner, neither of you abandons the other in the restaurant no matter how long it takes to finish eating. And before you move in together, it’d be a little weird if one of you left the other person to eat alone. Once you’re roommates, though, that changes. I’m an exceptionally slow eater, but my family all sat together at dinner until everyone finished. Paul inhales his food. I was surprised that first time he got up when I was only halfway done (he kindly waits for me now).
What His Pre-Bedtime/Post-Wake-Up Rituals Are
He may shorten his routine if you occasionally stay at his place, and he probably wouldn’t do the whole thing at your home. But when you’re married or living together, you see it all. Does he floss nightly and use mouthwash? Does he check his e-mail and the weather forecast as soon as his morning alarm goes off? Does he put gel in his hair or trim his nose hairs?
If He Goes to Bed at the Same Time as You
I knew Paul was a night owl. Yet when we stayed at each other’s dorms in college, we went to bed at the same time. Not so once we moved in together. He stays up a full two to three hours later than me every night (thankfully, he’ll hang out in our bed until I fall asleep before he goes back out into the living room).
How Often He Talks to His Friends and Family
Until you’re spending every night and weekend with your guy, you don’t have the full picture of his phone habits. My pal didn’t know until she moved in with her fiancé that he talks to his mom every day for 20 minutes or more at a time. Paul has a friend he’ll chat with just once or month or so…but for an hour.
How Much He’ll Pitch In On His Own
Any good guy would do their fair share of chores if asked. It’s just that some guys don’t know to do things automatically and need to be asked. So while he may help with the dishes when he comes to your place, will he load the dishwasher by himself sometimes? Will he go buy milk when you run out? Will he start making dinner before you get home from work? (Fingers crossed the answer is yes to all these!)
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