30 ways to keep your connection alive
Talk to each other, every day
No matter how busy you both get, make time each day to talk to each other about what’s on your mind. Whether you share problems and brainstorm solutions, or just share the funny things that happened during your day, you’ll both feel more connected.
-- By Sharon O'Brien
Spend time alone
Once a relationship is established, the pull of spending time alone may start to lessen. Don’t let it. It’s important for couples to have time alone to talk, laugh and relax together. Plan one night a week for just the two of you—whether you go out on the town or plan a cozy evening at home. If you have kids, schedule a babysitter.
Keep up your appearance
Sure, your partner will find you more attractive if you’re well-groomed and wearing something flattering. But since so much of sexual enjoyment is in the mind, keeping up your appearance will also help you feel sexy. And that will help put both of you in the mood for sex.
Studies show that dancing is a great way to get in shape, and it’s a lot more fun than a treadmill. Dancing also keeps you young, agile and sexy. So whether you’re at home or in a club, grab your partner and dance.
Make your partner feel important
A common complaint among longtime couples is that everyone else—friends, family, kids, coworkers—gets priority over your partner. Sure, it’s important to have a full life, but that doesn’t negate the importance of connection to help couples keep the spark alive. Make sure your partner knows that he or she is first on your list.
Share non-sexual touching
Remember when you first met and you wanted to touch all the time? Physical touch—a hug, holding hands, an arm around her shoulder—convey love. And that helps couples feel more connected.
Hug for at least 30 seconds
No need for a stopwatch, but the next time you hug your partner make it a good, long embrace. Researchers have found that healthy hugs can increase oxytocin, a hormone that helps with bonding and feelings of attachment.
Know what turns you on
Although some people think masturbation is best for people without partners, it’s actually a good way to discover how you like to be touched and what turns you on. Share what you learn with each other.
Make time for sexual play
Set aside one weekend a month—or one night a week—to have fun with your partner in bed. Be silly, try role-playing, experiment a little—the idea is to experience fun and joy together.
If your sex life has become routine, perhaps sex toys will add the variety and spice you’re looking for. Make toy shopping a mutually pleasurable event, and only indulge in what you both agree on. This is meant to be fun and pleasing for both partners.