20 ways to spring clean your dating life
Start with your wardrobe. Check your closet, or go shopping, for a few date-ready outfits in the styles and colors that make you look and feel most attractive. Make sure some of those options are always clean and ready for spur-of-the-moment social opportunities.
-- By Sharon O'Brien
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Be realistic about your options
If you’re older or a bit overweight, and your fantasy date is a 20-year-old hardbody, how is that working out for you? Maybe it’s time to let go of unrealistic dreams and get to know some people who would appreciate what you have to offer.
Get in shape
When it comes to dating, you want to look and feel your best, so say goodbye to your couch-potato lifestyle and those extra pounds you added over the winter. Work out more, stop eating junk food, and take the stairs whenever you have a choice.
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Don’t be afraid to walk away
Are you dating someone who doesn’t seem to be that into you? Maybe it’s time to stop trying to push your current relationship uphill, and to focus your attention on someone who shows a genuine interest in you.
Freshen up your online dating profile
If you’ve been in the online dating world for a while, take some new photos and update your profile to include any new interests or insights. Now is also a good time to consider the people who reply to your profile. If they don’t seem to be a good fit for you, or you consistently attract people who leave too much to be desired, a little profile revision can help you meet people who are more in sync with your goals and personality.
Have you been focusing exclusively on one source for potential dates? Try different ways to meet people—volunteer, take a class or join a special-interest group that supports a cause that’s important to you. The more diverse you are in the way you live your life, the more chances you’ll have to meet interesting people.
Sharpen your listening skills
Everyone likes to talk about themselves—that includes your date—and it’s the best way to really get to know someone. Show your interest by asking questions about the things that interest them, and by being an engaged and active listener.
Leave the past in the past
Nothing turns a date from great to grotesque faster than someone who spends the entire time complaining about past relationships or the ex who got away. Give yourself a fresh start with a new person by leaving your old baggage at home.
Follow the trends
What are the newest and best ways to meet new people? Speed dating, lunch dates, airport dating (because so many single people travel for work or pleasure)? How about special-interest Meet Up groups, or hiking, kayaking or ski clubs? There are so many ways to connect with people who share your interests.
Don’t expect someone else to turn your life around or make you happy. Would you want to be with someone that needy? People are more likely to respond positively to someone who’s upbeat and optimistic.