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Men wish women would chip in on dates

But most guys still pick up the tab, recent findings suggest.

By Joy Jernigan - MSN Living Editor Aug 15, 2013 5:07PM

Man and woman on a dateGuys, you’re still paying for dates, but most of you wish women would also pick up the tab sometimes.

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In a recent survey, 84 percent of men said they are responsible for dating expenses. However, most men – 64 percent – said women should occasionally pay for dates.

The findings were presented this week at the American Sociological Association’s annual meeting.

As for women, 57 percent offer to chip in, although 39 percent said they hope men will refuse their offer. 

A number of women – 44 percent – said it's a turnoff when men expect them to pay, and an equal number of men said they would stop seeing a woman if she didn’t occasionally pick up the check.

“I’m fine with paying for the first few dates,” said a 25-year-old male participant in TIME Magazine's report. “However, if relationships are supposed to be 50/50, then each partner is expected to invest in the partnership financially.”

Those most likely to offer to share the costs? Younger, college-educated men and women.

More than 17,000 unmarried, heterosexual men and women were surveyed using a questionnaire posted on NBCNews.com.

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"One of the reasons we are interested in looking at who pays for dates is because it is one arena where women may be resisting gender changes more than men," David Frederick, an assistant professor of psychology at Chapman University, told The Huffington Post. "As social roles start to change, people often embrace the changes that make their lives easier, but resist the changes that make their lives more difficult."

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Aug 21, 2013 6:56PM
Who ever initiates the date should pay sounds fair.  If one party makes considerably more money than the other, pay for the majority of the date.  Women still do not make nearly as much money as men.  kt

Aug 21, 2013 11:48AM

Everyone appreciates having someone treat you once and a while. Share everything I say. 

Aug 17, 2013 3:44AM
I think what all of you men are saying is that American women have become self centered, selfish, greedy and unethical.    Hm just like American men.
Aug 16, 2013 8:32PM
The old era is gone with the wind when men always paid defining their title as a gentleman. Now the new era which is not so new of both parents working & more women being in the workforce of which some industries were only male  workers is here to stay. More & more women are getting equal pay & benefits leading the household as a primary bread & butter winner. So if a woman wants a date with a man he could refuse her by saying I can't afford the date. She should not look at him as a cheap-skate & if she does then she'll have a hard time even trying to get a man to marry the one she may want to.  The Tides has changed so much that we now have " Mr Moms " & their is no such thing as woman's work. It takes two to tango!   The bride is carrying the groom into their new home, oh my God what has become of men? Simple, the ERA for women. They wanted it,  they got it & a man deserves just as much respect as a woman does. After all  it  is fact we won't be around as long as the bride will be in life span. So treat your man right.
Aug 16, 2013 6:31PM

whoever initiates the date should be prepared to pay the bill - and the one who accepts the date may offer / insist on paying the bill / their portion, but should not never feel obliged to do so -

Aug 16, 2013 6:10PM
Simple and straight - pay your own bills unless explicitly have made another arrangement with your date. Whether you're on a date or with your colleagues/friends keep your dignity and don't try to do what 'others' do (or expect you to do) - that, to me, is the sign of a healthy association, with no assumptions and with full individual responsibility
Aug 16, 2013 6:05PM
What ahout women, who cook home made meals for men? They plan the meal, do the shopping, cook the meal, and clean up. Should we go half on those meals as well?
Aug 16, 2013 6:04PM
i can tell...the majority of people reading this article are women!!
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